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Hey y'all Jessica Hefley Prosperity With Purpose podcast here. Got a quick one for you on how you can deliberately decide that something will not be stressful. I had an epiphany very recently in a coaching session where I was getting coached and this may seem like a silly story to you. But anyways I have some epic vacations coming up because my company is epically generous for its top leaders and epically generous for everybody. But anyways I'm going to go to Iceland for a long time. It's been a dream of mine for years and years and years. I had the whole thing mapped out. I’ve been wanting to do it for a long time. Can y'all just pray that those volcanoes can calm down a little bit and the world not get too crazy before this election because I'd love to go to Iceland. And I'm obviously holding it loosely but the plan is to go to Iceland and so I've been so excited about it. But also there was some feelings of like ohh that's a long time to be out of town. I've got to figure out the house, got to figure out the dog sitte,r Rob's got to figure out the gun store. I gotta take care of a bunch stuff before I leave. It'll be right before when this kids start school just like anyways, we have a lot of other things going on the summer so multiple different church camps and Plexus convention and my kids have kid life camps, family camps, basketball camps. So anyways, a full summer. So I knew this was only the only time in the whole summer but we work was right before school started and so I deliberately about to spend that word take notice I deliberately planned this vacation at a very specific time to be the least amount of stressful to all of us as possible. With a full calendar and I deliberately very specifically and planned for it to be on those states well pivot another amazingly rocking vacation came up of a yacht trip to the Bahamas. Another amazing trip for our company. It had to be moved multiple times. Well my amazing friend has invited us to go with them like multiple to multiple times it keeps getting canceled but then the only time that it would work is literally right before we leave for Iceland like. Fly to the Bahamas go on a private yacht with our 2 families again. Our amazing companies providing all of this and then fly directly to Washington DC where we would then fly to Iceland. I'd planned a couple days in Washington DC where we can tour the White House and the state capitol and really go to the Bible museum that place is awesome. Maybe you guys ever been there Washington DC you could spend days there. It's phenomenal! We went right before our trip to Israel a couple days ago and only got to spend a couple hours. You literally could spend days. It's amazing I want to take my kids there. So bad. Okay, so anyways so then straight to DC, straight to Iceland for already a very long trip to Iceland. Straight home and then a few days later the kids start school. I was noticing First of all hello amazing trips! Amazing once in a lifetime big trips. There's absolutely no complaining about them. I am so grateful. So excited. But inside of me was like oh feeling a little bit stressed. This feels like after to pack swimsuits and winter coats in the same suitcase and I'm be gone for a very long time and I was just noticing. Get out your feelings wheel, friends. So don't stuff it like there's something there that needs to have some freedom. So let's explore it and anyways got talked to my coach about that and I was telling her.You're like you don't understand like I'm so conflicted like I'm so excited for both but yet I'm so like stressed about it and she was like because I had so deliberately picked those dates and so I wouldn't be stressed and she just simply said why can't you then deliberately decide that it won't be stressful? It was just like it's always the most simplest “Aha’s!” that I feel like other people that are listening to this are going to be like, Jessica you're such an idiot that was so obvious that's so simple you're going on amazing trips! I don’t care that it’s amazing trips, I don't care if you judge me, it was going what was happening inside of me just like any other circumstance in your life where you're feeling like a little bit of stress is because of what's happening inside of you doesn't even have to do with the outside circumstances. It has to do with something in you and so when she opened up the possibility for me that I could deliberately decide that it wouldn't be stressful. I could ahead of time deliberately decide. It would be the funnest trips of my entire life. I could deliberately decide the whole month before I leave on my trip to very intentionally get work done. Plan things around the house, around the dog, around the packing weeks in advance, so it was not stressful down to the last minute, I could deliberately decide to do that to make my life less stressful and I just felt like that was a word for somebody for anything that you're going on your life or maybe your plans change or you work like you work really hard to do something. It didn't turn out the way you thought. We've had multiple trips canceled like it's just these things come up. Okay. But you can allow yourself to grieve, process. Whatever is going on with you there. Don't let your body feel that all the things like but this is a set most people don't do they just they just keep moving. Oftentimes when you allow yourself to actually feel that, then there's more possibilities. It's not like this is the only way that can be done like oh no I process that it's not so elevated and heightened in my system anymore that I now see there's other possibilities. And 1 of the possibilities is I get to deliberately decide, it's not going to be stressful. I get to deliberately decide ahead of time that a trip we're taking our kids on you know, sometimes kids can be stressful, right? or it's not as relaxing or, it's not as relaxing as an adults only trip right? But ahead of time I already have deliberately decided it is going to be 1 of the best memories my family is ever going to make together. So. It's not going to cross my mind that it's stressful because I've already deliberately decided that this is always how it was supposed to be and it's going to be amazing! So bless you this week in your work and in your personal life on an area where you think you only have 1 choice. No, you get to deliberately decide what you make it mean and I personally am deliberately and deciding that it is not going to be stressful amen and amen. We'll see you next time.