99| Seasons; Never Give Up Hope!

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Welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose podcast. I'm Jessica Hefley. We have a quick episode for you today. I like these like quick ones so sprinkled in there. Okay, so this one we are going to I want you to go listen to the song. It's called Seasons by Hillsong I'll put it in the show notes. I can't play it for you right now because of copyrights and all the things. So I'm going to literally read the lyrics to you. This was a song that someone shared with me. It's actually from their Christmas album and they shared it not during the Christmas season. I consider this an all year round song. Okay because talks about Jesus and the birth and anyways, you'll you'll find out soon enough. But I just think it was in when it was years ago and I was in a really hard season and this song just spoke to me and it's actually called Seasons that we actually are in different seasons of our life. So I'm just going to read these lyrics to you kind of. Process with you out loud why it was so powerful to me and encourage you to cling to hope this book is litter of this book. This song is literally called Seasons and so it talks about the different seasons that you are in in your life but to cling to hope. Cling to the promise. So even though this song was first introduced to me years ago in a very painful hard season of my life I still get so emotional when I hear this or when I observe someone else going through a hard season and not giving up or going through a hard season and feeling like they might give up. I will cling to hope for them, even if they don't, even if they don't know about it, and so for you as high-level entrepreneurs as overwhelmed business owners, my plea my invitation for you is to cling. Hope if you are in a hard season cling to hope that that a next season can be completely different for you. So I'm just going to read it I'll probably stop along the way and talk. But here we go: Like the frost on a rose, Winter comes for us all, oh how nature aquaints us. With the nature of patience like a seed that is like a seed in the snow I've been buried to grow for your promise is loyal from seed to Sequoia, I love that theme,. We're gonna hear it over and over in the song seed to Sequoia like represent. Let's pause okay, how little is a seed? Okay oh it is little. How big is a Sequoia? Have you guys ever been to a Sequoia forest me and Rob did before kids we went up the California coast up highway ten or highway one.. Anyways, we went from the bottom all the way to the top and this pro tip 30 minutes north of San Francisco is Muir woods M-U-I-R it's one of my most favorite. It might be my most favorite place I've ever been to in the United States of America. It's a redwood forest. It's Sequoias. They're humongous and it's like this mythical land. It was just so. I want to go back I want to take my kids back but they're just so huge. They're huge and you just feel so small I think I love that anytime that I am able to be near something that reminds me of how small I am, and how big our creator is that's why I love going to the mountains. That's why I love going to the ocean because being around and while I'm going to Sequoia Field it's because Sequoias are so much bigger than me. So anyways, back to the song from so okay, your promise is loyal from seed to sequoia right? from the tiny seed to the human, good Sequoia your promise is loyal okay. And it says I know kind of want this thing and I know though the winter is long, even richer the harvest, it brings though my waiting, prolongs even greater your promise to me, like a seed I believe that my season will come, Lord, I think of your love. Like the long winter sun and as I gaze I am blinded in the light of your brightness and like a fire to the snow, I'm renewed in your warmth, melt the ice of this wild soul till the barren is beautiful. And I know though the winter is long even richer the harvest it brings though my waiting prolongs even greater your promise to me, like a seed I believe that my season will come, oh and here's my favorite part, and it's like the rift and the song and it changes tempo and it changes tone and it's just like I can't lets it do it without crying. Okay, and this part says, I can see the promise, I can see the future, You're the God of seasons, and I'm just in the winter, and all I know of Harvest is that it's worth my patience, then if you're not done working God, I'm not done waiting. You can see my promise, even in the winter because you're the God of greatness, even in a manger for all I know of, seasons is that you take your time you could have saved us in a second but instead you sent a child, I can't. It's a process! This is in the end of the song but we're pausing for a minute. It's a process. Your life is a process! Cling to hope! He could have saved us in an instant but he sent a child. He sent a baby in a manger who had to grow and mature. And it wasn't even until he was thirty years old until he started his ministry. Okay, it took around 33 years actually it took you know thousands of years for the Promise. Okay, and but it was just like ah. Could have done it in a second but he is so sovereign and he sees the bigger picture. He knows what's happening and so if you're and so my favorite line of all that we're not even done is, if you're not done working God, I'm not done waiting. Oh. It's so hard in that season. Of waiting in that season where you wish you weren't in and or in that season that you wish were over, that season that you wish you were having a different results, or a different outcome or whatever is so painful for you. I want if you're not done working God then I'm not done waiting and there is such an element of trust. And that in release in that and believing there is a purpose in the waiting, believing that there is a bigger picture and clinging to hope I kind of want to read that last paragraph again. So I am okay so I want to read that favorite part just again and then I'll finish up the song. It says I can see the promise, I can see the future. You're the God of seasons, and I'm just in the winter, and all I know of harvest is that it's worth my patience, then if you're not done working God, I'm not done waiting, and it's my favorite part. You can see my promise even in the winter, because you're the God of greatness, even in a manger. For all I know of seasons is that you take your time, you could have saved us in a second, instead you sent a child though. The winter is long even richer the harvest it brings, though my waiting prolongs even greater your promise to me, like a seed I believe that my season will come. And when I finally see my tree still I believe that there's a season to come, like a seed you are sown for the sake of us all from Bethlehem's soil grew Calvaries' Sequoia.

That seed that you're in cling to that seed of promise because that will grow into a Sequoia that promise that he is giving you who okay, that's all I mean um i. This is pretty self- explanatory. Go listen to the song the end that's your homework. Go listen to the song. Allow it to speak to you. Listen to it with the lyrics, listen to it on repeat. It's one of my songs on the playlist that was from a couple episodes ago, I need to get my list in front of me that tells me the episode numbers I'll also put that in the show notes where I have a playlist that is all about like gratitude and expansiveness so enjoy be blessed. Thanks for being here with my tears. Thanks for letting me share something that was really meaningful to me and still is I know will bless you! Bless ya, see you later.

98| Do you start/stop, start/stop and HATE that you do?

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Welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose podcast! I am Jessica Hefley, and today we're talking about my wannabe Madonna Arms - I don't really care for a Madonna but she's got some ripped arms and has for years and I have said for ten plus years I want ripped arms. The only problem is I don't have ripped arms still! Is that a problem? We're gonna explore that, because I was feeling so much shame around saying I wanted something, doing it for a little while, and then stopping and restarting. Doing it again, working out regularly, consistently and then stopping repeat, repeat, repeat! I felt like I've made so much progress in so many other areas of my life. Are you hearing this about me? Maybe you’re like ripped arms is not your magical dream. Okay, but I want you to put this in light of your business. Almost everything that gives me breakthroughs in my business comes from a personal story that seems so unrelated. Where in your business have you started, stopped, started, stopped, started, stopped? Maybe you didn't even recognize that it was shame, but you just feel so much shame about starting again or you're already making up the scenario that “What's the point? Because I'm already go I'm going to start it and stop it.”, or there's fear around but this is what I want I want to try again. But I don't know how or I don't feel like I have the time I don't feel like I have the capacity. Have no idea how I'm going to get the results. The results seem so hard. All of those invitations to talk to the coach! I'm here! I'm available! Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship is where we have breakthroughs. But for me that meant time for me to talk to my coach which hadn't been that long until I had talked to my coach before because I very regularly, “Talk to Coach!”. I have lots of coaches, but I was noticing I think you just kind of get to the point I don't know this usually happens how it works for me. I just get to the point where I'm like I'm fed up with it like I need to do something about this! I don't have the results that I want and I'm not going to just like sit on the couch and not do nothing! So, it's just like the shame cycle of what should I do but I don't have the result I want, so I ask for help! Light bulb! I ask for help! When we started the conversation really what I got down to was I was feeling dumb. I was feeling dumb that I can't figure this out. I was feeling dumb that I'm a life coach. I know that I need to put it on my calendar and plan it and schedule it ahead of time and just do it. But of course y'all know what to do. I know what to do, for the most part, we know what to do. Where the invitation is covering the reason why we're not doing what we know we should do, right? Which usually is almost always involves some sort of shame story you put on yourself, some sort of condemnation, some sort of against yourself. So I was feeling dumb that I couldn't figure it out which I know is an invitation then to unhook some areas of judgment I have towards myself, some areas of condemnation I have towards myself and the beauty of it is that that will also unhook areas that I have judgment and condemnation against others! Which will also be helpful for you in your business to have some empathy, and be able to understand some what other people are going through in their own businesses. Maybe why they're not going as fast as you wish they would or doing the things that you know that they are capable of doing and they're not doing them. It has to go down a little bit deeper than that. I also was feeling some fear around what this would entail like I want ripped arms. I want muscular arms. I'm very tall and I’ve been thin most of my life. But really, it's been like skinny-fat. I don't really have much muscle. There's been seasons since where I have and then I'd fall back. You know what I mean, and so I want solid ripped arms and anyways, that's just something I've always wanted. So I was having some fear around, “Oh my gosh if that's really what I want and it is what I want”. It's what I've been saying I've been wanting for 10 years then what is that going to entail? That seems hard, and at time already that feels so at capacity already have so many other things going on like what does that entail? Ok, baby steps. Let me step back just a minute. First of all when I was in Dominican Republic in February you know in a swimsuit, all those things I was like oh summer's coming I'm not happy with these results and so a lot of things felt overwhelming in this particular area which I I'll explain all the breakrough that I had but in February it felt overwhelming. So was that my husband was like why don't you hire a trainer? I just was like I'm just not in that season yet. Why don't I, for one month make a commitment to walk six days a week, and so and then after one month I'll reevaluate, and I'll be ready to do some more intense training, right? And so I did that! I committed to the walk. It's amazing what happens to when you commit to something ahead of time! Commit to the process! I wasn't committing to a result of losing weight, or I wasn't counting my steps I was just like I will go on a walk every day six days a week for one month and that felt really good and really right for me. It was really was fascinating how you know where I'd notice I was scrolling my phone before I'd pick up the kids from school and I'd be like oh I've got forty to five minutes put on the tennis shoes. Let's go to walk in before the kids get home, because I had committed to do it! It made it so much easier. I'd committed to the process, right? It had been a month was coming up and I was like oh I don't know I want arms but I just that feels the the the beautiful thing is is why it was feeling so hard something so simple why it was feeling so hard apply this to yourself that. That thing that you know that you need to do why it now feels so hard is because of the shame story you're telling yourself about about it because of the condemning voice of why should you even try, “You're just going to quit! You're you've tried this before you're going to quit again. What is wrong with you?”. That is what we're going to uncover today, and that is where I had a huge breakthrough because it all is about just beginning again. It's about starting all you need to do is start again. One day at a time! So many people because of the shame-condemning story. They're just like what's the point I'm not even going to try start again. Shame keeps says that there's something wrong with you when you are feeling the feelings of shame or not even feeling the feelings of shame but they're there. You may not be even aware of it and you think it's something else and you're just avoiding it. The shame story is that it keeps telling you that something is wrong with you. How can we neutralize this this this situation? For me it was like how can I neutralize this shame and condemnation? This scenario where I've started and stopped ,I've started and stopped? I don't want to do that anymore. Oh I'm so horrible. How could I neutralize it? How if I was somebody that was trying to help me from an outside perspective that didn't have all the emotions and shame that I was feeling and how could someone like me. Or well let me let me say this? Okay so a way that I could neutralize it is sometimes people like me struggle with this! Sometimes humans struggle! Sometimes highly successful people struggle with follow through. Let me normalize this, highly successful people also struggle in certain areas, you're still seeing their highlight reel. Just because someone's a life coach or just because someone's a CEO or just because someone's your mentor, just because someone whatever. You're thinking or just because someone's a certain rank or a certain income. They're like, “I bet they never struggle with that!”, sometimes people like you struggle with what you're going through actually more people struggle than not so let's change those those ratios here but I want you to neutralize it. Sometimes I have bad days. Sometimes highly successful people like me can't figure out how to go just lift weights again. They know and again it's not the excuse of I don't know what to do I have a tonal machine. The tonal machine does everything for you. It puts the weight on it counts your reps it counts your score it programs the workouts for you like there's I don't even have to think it's not like oh what I don't know what to do or I don't know how long to do this now. It literally is plug and play so again, this is a reminder for you. You know what you need to do? The reason you're not doing. It is some shame story that you're telling yourself that you should be further along or you shouldn't be struggling with this or people like you don't have to deal with this That's a lie from the enemy and so when I was talking to my coach. She helped me realize what was kind of the theme. What did my condemning voice sound like? I noticed that again was a voice I kept hearing in that condemning voice. Okay, if you're unfamiliar in the in the spiritual realm I love to look at it. This way is Satan speaks to you in the condemning voice. It makes you shrink back, makes you get smaller. Fear is an intimidating. Shame makes you feel less than. God's voice even in correction is his loving kindness lead you to repentance. Even his correction is rising you up, speaking to your true, if you're watching me on YouTube you can literally see my hands the difference. It rises you up to your true identity and purpose. So if you're so this this is a very powerful thing you can do is just start to notice the voice that you're hearing, and start to notice how you're speaking to yourself. start to notice what your thoughts, your mind, is offering to you because you get to choose. Okay, it's on autopilot an autopilot story is probably shameful and condemning and making you feel smaller and definitely not making you start again because that's what Satan, the enemy, does not want you to do. He does not want you to start again. He wants you to go sit on the couch. Go eat some chips make a sandwich and just sit there and binge. He doesn't want you to make a difference in the world. He doesn't want you to be healthy. He doesn't want you to accomplish your goals. But God says I am doing a new thing! Your future is going to look completely different from your past. Apart from me, you can do nothing. Let's do this together. So it was really important for me to notice that my condemning voice was like again like oh you started and stopped again, you set out a goal in this area and didn't accomplish it again. So I was noticing just like the word this like word of again was where my condemning voice was and so then we got to notice what would my empathetic voice sound like towards this? What would a neutral voice that wasn't heaping shame on you that was just like curious like high achieving people sometimes struggle with this. What would that empathetic voice sound like for you in your situation? For me my first thought was well that empathetic voice towards me in this specific specific arm exercise scenario. It felt unfamiliar yet really nice like. Really delightful unfamiliar because that's not usually the voice that I I listen to or I hear I seek out or I create on purpose but it was really really nice and so if I was a person trying to help myself. What would I say how would I address the scenario. If I was like if you were trying to help somebody else in that situation. What would you do and how would you make it neutral but this all of this always right? This was my beautiful invitation to unhook from shame. Okay, because here you go here here was the question that I dealt with. Where is punishing myself with shame going to get me where is punishing myself again about that I haven't figured out this war work out I'll start start start stop start start so where is that getting me. It's getting me nowhere and I'll still be there in a year okay so do I want to continue punishing myself with shame or do i. Strong arms like I get to decide but I couldn't even decide I was like I was frozen like ah, there's no possibilities I don't know how this is going to work until I was able to find some freedom bring shed some light on tell the truth about my shame. The truth is what will set you free. Okay, if you keep ignoring it or not being honest with yourself. You're going to still say in your shame cycle. The truth of like I feel shame about this, I feel some fear about how what all this is going to entail. When I was honest with that I now get to decide! Do I to continue punishing myself with shame? Do I want to continue to tell myself that story. Do I want you live into the story you tell yourself? Do I want to continue with that or do I want strong arms? I want strong arms. So I get to restart. I get to try again. I get to start. I get to be an overcomer. I don't want to be in the same place I am now a year from now. So I get to decide, just decide, just decide. Whatever it is that you've been starting stopping starting stopping starting so just decide you're done with punishing yourself. You're done with the shame cycle around this in three months from now yeah and when you choose to be done with it three months from now there'll be a difference six months from now you'll be off completely different. You'll have you'll be a completely different person three months from now I'm gonna notice a difference in my arms six months from now I'm gonna have completely different arms and I've stopped obsessing with the end result and started committing to the process committing to restarting committing. Starting and restarting and committing to the process enjoying the process celebrating the process if you follow me on Instagram every day after I do my total exercise I post on Instagram I am celebrating myself. I am proud of myself. The Gap and the Gain, is a really great book for you on this on this concept of like we're always judging ourself against what we haven't accomplished instead of celebrating the gain stop focusing on the gap but celebrate your gains and so that's what I have decided to do. That's what my coach helped me uncover. There's a couple other things that help got me to the end result but I just decided. I'm decided I'm done punishing myself because I want different results. Okay, we've got to lessen our focus on the outcome. So many of you guys get so obsessed like oh I want this amount of money, I want this rank and you're like your eyes are only on that only on that and then you just keep comparing yourself to this gap of how you haven't reached that elusive ideal. Instead of committing and celebrating the process lesson they focus on the outcome and commit to the process. Not the results commit to who you become in the process commit to the journey commit to all the life's gifts. Hard and easy that will all come your way as you commit to your transformation. The results are going to be inevitable if you commit to the process. It's committing to the process. It's the restarting. That's what the majority of the people will not do because they're in that shame cycle but you. Are not most people you are an overcomer you are choosing to restart you are choosing to commit to the process you are choosing to remember God's voice that is calling you higher, not choosing to come in agreement with the voice of condemnation that is calling you to shame and sin and and and just stopping just sitting on the couch just giving up. Yeah, it's easier not to do it. It's easier not to do it but you are called higher and your transformation the way that you break through in this the way that you become healthier in this the way that you overcome in this is going to do wonder. For everybody else you have influence over so going back to what would it look like to meet myself right? Where I am without judgment. This is what this is what they she helped me uncover and this is what I love helping other people I do so. The time but it was just like I couldn't go I do it all myself. So I'm so grateful for coaches because that's where people want to be met where they are you want to you want to be met where you are. You don't want somebody saying you should have done this. You should be farther along than you already are what's wrong with you. You're gonna you're gonna start. So if you start this, you're just gonna stop again. Okay, so what would it look like to meet yourself right? where you are in that goal for yourself like I was where I was like here's where I am I have this goal that I want I don't know how to get there or I. Feel scared to get there or I feel so much shame about how I've tried to get there before in the Past. What would it look like to meet you right? where you are with out the judgment just the truth This is where I am I don't like it. Don't feel like this is how I have to be forever, but this is where I am today. How can you see feel and understand her. How can you see feel and understand yourself like yeah I kind of make perfect sense high-achchieving people like me. Yeah. Sometimes I get really focused on something and it falls away for a while I'm human welcome to the human experience like what makes me so special that I will never experience shame or anything like this again sometimes people like me sometimes people like you don't hit their goals. Sometimes people like you have started and stopped and started and stopped and they're ready to stop stopping and you're ready to re commit to the process. So I'm committed to the process. And my coach helped me figure out like what is my actual steps. What am I and how am I going to start? I didn't have to figure out everything I just had to commit so we came up with a plan where I was going to for one month again commit to this, commit to weight training my arms four days a week so that's what we decided. It's so fascinating. How many things open up for you after you decide after you commit. It's the whole world of possibilities come like it's when you commit to your business. Are you commit to your marketing It's like oh then all the people come if you build it they will come so we committed ah over the phone and then I was. The first week I was like she was like what do you want me e do do you want to check in so each day I worked out I checked in with her the first week and to help me establish the habit and then honestly after day one the starting it didn't even take me a whole week I was in it so when I committed I got off I got off. Call with her and then I was opening up my tonal program the app it's got like different programs for arms, legs, full body. You know, different levels and the very first one that popped up was like this ultimate arms program and it was four days a week for four weeks and I was like oh look what happens when you commit. The process look what happens when you make powerful decisions and you decide you are capable of making decisions. So your life can move forward and I did and I went and did it and it was like all these lies that I had in my brain of like I just don't have the time I'm already so maxeddounded all of those are so gone like that is. Not even an issue at all I am motivated I am celebrating my progress I am kind to myself about this. Actually we got to a root, because we also talked about some other like hard conversation hard interactions I've had with some people lately and honestly shame or. Terrible feelings are negative. Emotions are just pointing us to an unmet need we have in ourselves often and so we did some explorating of like I just didn't feel cared for and so I got to equate this like lifting weights for me right now. Whatever it is for you I now am equating that to this, is how I care for me if other people or other relationships or I'm not feeling cared for by them. This is a way that I can create care for myself. I show up for myself in this way and it feels like this need that I have to be cared for because I know if I commit to the process I will get results and I know how much I'll love those results. I've had toned arms in the past and I love them and I'm proud of them and I just feel more confident. It's just something It's just that's just me and I like to wear tank tops when my arms look good and so I know it's gonna feel so good. But I'm not obsessed with that end result I have committed to caring for myself by committing to this process when I lift weights I am caring for myself. So I decided to. Ah, committed to the process I honor myself and my calendar honoring my time honoring myself honor is one of the core values within our prosperity with purpose mentorship and I decided to restart James clear from the book. Automatic habits 1 of them. It's a really great book every action you take is a vote. For the type of person you wish to become and I wish to be someone who cares for me who cares for others I wish to be someone who's willing to risk maybe down the road I'll stop maybe down the road I might experience some shame around this again. But I'm willing right now to restart. I'm not worried about all that right now right now. I am focused on what is right in front of me I am focused on committing to the process and I restarted and so since I've recorded this podcast. It has been now been three weeks of solid four days a week arm workouts. You know they say like you can see progress in three months and you'll have a totally different outcome in six months. I can see results in three weeks y'all! You may not but I look at my arms every day and I am so proud of myself, and even if I didn't see results within three weeks I would keep going because this is a long-term vision. I have a vision of myself as a person who is healthy, who is strong, and fit and ripped, so that's something I write in my start today journal every day as if it's already happened. It's a vision that I have for myself that I have for my future! I've gotten derailed a couple of times. I'm not looking to the past anymore of evidence of what. Is possible for my future. So begin again. Friends begin again business owners that area of your business or maybe you've put it aside or haven't been as committed to it as you have before restart leaders restart. Leaders become aware of those uncomfortable emotions. Go back to episode number 91 that feelings wheel literally I use daily literally I am aware of what is happening inside of my body. My feelings emotions daily those help my business for you guys that are over there like yeah that feelings wheel is too fluffy for me. No I am a successful entrepreneur. The number 2 in leadership development in an entire network marketing company. I have a 7 figure network marketing company, a 6 figure coaching business that will become 7 figures because I am aware of what's my thoughts. My thoughts are what my feelings are what they're creating for me because I am aware of whenever I'm feeling shame. I don't just ignore it I view it as an invitation to find healing an invitation to find freedom and the same is for you restart the world needs what you have to offer the world needs the highest version of you. I am cheering you on! Let me know this week on social media where you have restarted. what Aha it is! We want to cheer you on! I am so proud of you. Thanks for coming a little inside into what's been going on with me the past couple weeks. I love sharing my breakthroughs, because I know that every time I break through every time I gain more agency every time I peel back another layer of something that was hindering me I'm running freer and because I'm running freer, it inspires you to be able to walk and run in your own freedom. So God bless you! Go restart!

97| What do CEOs and Olympic Athletes have in common? (They hire a coach to go to the next level!)

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Hey welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose podcast. I'm Jessica Hefley and today we're talking about why people hire or don't hire a coach. But first do you hear that do you hear that noise. Those are my chickens. No I'm just kidding but if you follow me on social media, on Instagram, I have been inviting you into my baby chicken saga .We started with 14. You'll have to go there and listen to the rest. Okay, here's the phrase that keeps people stuck, “I should have this figured out by now”, “I should have this figured out by now”, or “I'm just going to figure it out on my own” those phrases will keep you in a two x hustle, hustle, hustle, grind, grind, grind, barely getting by, overwhelmed, got your hand in all the things and hardly ever resting. Okay because you're continuing to stay in the story or stay in the shame of “I should have this figured out”, “I should have this figured now” “I should be able to figure this out”, ” I'm gonna figure this out on my own”. Okay people look at me and they're like “Oh Jessica I can never be like you” or “You're so successful!” or “You're so emotionally stable.” or all these things I'm like yeah girl just get started because I've invested 15 years of coaching and therapy and learning on topics that have helped me become a more more wholehearted person. Okay think about this, if you think of CEOS of high level corporations I want you to think of Olympic athletes. I want you to think of like the top coach even in the world we would be considered like you know in the in the secular world think of like even Tony Robbins. Okay, for example, those people, you , look at them and there you would think they are the best of the best of the best they have billion dollar Fortune 500 companies. Okay, the CEOs I'm talking about they win multiple gold medals in the Olympics. They're the best of the best of the best or Tony Robbins, who you know charges hundreds of thousand dollars for his programs. Thousands and thousands of thousands of people flock to his in-person events. You would think oh look at him, “He's the best coach ever”. All 3 of those different categories have coaches. The CEOs of Fortune 500 companies have coaches. Olympians who earn gold medals have coaches. Tony Robbins who is the best of the best of the best coach has 7 different coaches - light bulb. Okay, it's not about trying to figure out on it on your own. They are aware. An order to improve in order to go to the next level in order to have a life. They truly want not something they're stuck in or not something they they hate about their job but to truly enjoy it from a place of purpose from a place of service. They need some help they need somebody with an outside perspective. They need somebody challenging the old ways their old thoughts their old ways of thinking someone challenging the story that they're living into currently, because they think they have no agency over it. They think this is just life I don't have any time I don't have enough money. My business isn't growing. My team's not doing this instead coming from a completely different angle of awareness. A completely different angle of of motivation and honestly a completely different way of viewing your emotions. Okay so I want to think about this topic for doing this podcast episode. I made a list of all of the different coaches over the years in the different areas that I personally have coached in another area, and I'm gonna show you those in just second but another area that keeps people stuck is they so they view coaching as a cost or as as an expense instead of an an investment. Hear me - you are good soil. Good soil is worth investing in because when you invest in good soil it multiplies and when you invest in you it does not just affect you. It affects everybody you come in contact with! It affects your children, your spouse ,your church, your community, your school ,your business. Okay, by you investing in you, you actually are investing in hundreds thousands potentially hundreds of thousands of people's results because of how you are investing in you. It's like such an abundant way to view this It's not what am I going to lose what money am I going to lose from this but it's what do I have to gain what is the growth there. What is the excitement there. What is the results that I can produce from this and something very special happens when you actually invest income into it. There's this beautiful concept I love that's like the exchange of value when you invest in something. It's exchanging value for value. So you're paying amount of money to receive value in exchange. The number is ambiguous. Go back to the very first episode of my Money Mindset podcast if you're like, “Oh that costs a lot.” or “Oh that doesn't cost very much.”, what if money is neutral and there's not too much or not enough amount? Okay, first let's start doing that but in in exchange you receive something. And so when I personally invest money into a coaching program, into learning something new, I believe that I will receive something in exchange. I'm going to get out of this exactly what I need. That is what I go into every training. Anytime that I am there to learn something new, I have the expectation I am going to get out of this exactly what I need and that sets the stage for me because when I come in with the posture of “Oh this person isn’t going to teach me anything I don’t already know” or “Oh I've heard that before.”, do you understand how closed off that is? Yeah, you'll get exactly what you were you were thinking. You're gonna get oh but I didn't get anything new from that, I didn't get anything written new for that or the other person or me when I walk into a training I'm like I am gonna get out of this exactly what I need. I'm either going to learn something new. I'm going to have a breakthrough, I'm going to be reminded of something I already knew. But I'm gonna be reminded to implement it or teach somebody else it or it's gonna fall in a different way because it's a different time It's a different season in my life. But yeah, take that one, borrow that one from me “I'm gonna get out of this exactly what I need.” Okay, so here's all of the areas that I personally in the course of my professional history have gotten have hired coaches in because I'm always aware of like if there's an area of my life that I would like to improve or I notice that I don't have the results that I want in them in them or I want to learn something more about or I want to get better or I know that it will benefit not just me with everybody else I go and hire a coach. Okay, there is something about, and and I'm not saying there's nothing you can't get for free. My podcast is free. Y'all are getting phenomenal free content every single week. Do ever notice like how many podcast hosts and how much inspiration you get from Instagram? How much YouTubes you watch? All of these things for free, for free, for free, for free? What a gift that's so amazing. But I believe that you might be capping yourself because if that's if everything is an exchange and they're exchanging value for value. And it's free. Can you imagine? Exponentially what you would receive when you pay what the exchange would be for value to value of the income that you put in the income that you invest in yourself. So here's some areas I've hired a spiritual coach. Like that is something that I want insight into I want to learn more about. I want somebody to mentor me in that area. I want somebody to challenge me in that area. I want somebody to help me see things in a different latitude who's smarter than me in the area to teach me things Biblically and so that's why I've hired a coach physically. But I had in the past when I didn't have results I've hired a Macros Coach. I've hired another a personal trainer coach like in different seasons. That's what I needed in that season and I got out of it exactly what I needed did I leave those sessions with a body builder body. Oh my gosh I am the bet like I'm going to go do Competitions. No. Because I didn't put in the effort to get that results and so I'm taking full ownership of that and one of my actually an episode coming up here is going to be bought a lot of shame I had around starting and stopping starting and stopping starting and stopping exercise in the recent break there I had because I talked to my coach about it so stay tuned the next to that next episode. Okay, business I've hired business coaches. I've hired someone to help look at my business to ask me questions to help me be curious, to help me set goals, to help expand my vision, expand my goals, to help me think bigger in the possibilities than I ever have before I've hired that. I've hired coaches for my mental and emotional health. I've done therapy. I did therapy for years. We've done marriage therapy, individual therapy. I love therapy. I love coaching- they both have advantages. Someone would say an unfair advantage of mine to be that why I succeeded so quickly in my network marketing company I truly believe is the years of therapy I did even before I started, because it allowed me to already have worked through some people-pleasing, to work through some boundaries. All ready to work on my self-concepts all ready to be more confident in who I am. Ready to not avoid uncomfortable conversations or uncomfortable feelings and so that really I truly believed that was an unfair advantage. I was able to work through things quicker I was able to bounce back. I was able to identify fear and move forward in spite of it or because of it and I just feel I got my Christian life coaching certification a couple about here almost two years now ago now and that accelerated everything from that from a so much quicker perspective I felt so empowered to then have the tools to help myself. Like what what I did in 10 years of therapy from just six months of my life coaching certification, I felt like I was a completely transformed person and a lesser amount of time with the tools that life coaching provided me to help my life and business move forward. I've hired a financial coaches. People to look at our numbers, so people to help us with a spending plan. People to help us with investing. I recently hired a CFO to have a high level of looking at each one of our businesses and being really honest. With our numbers where we're at where we want to go what changes have to be made. What are some things that we can implement to help increase revenue. It's been really, really, really helpful I've paid for a sourdough class y'all. It was something I wasn't good at and that I wanted to learn about so I paid for somebody and it wasn't like oh and me go find everything for free. You can find everything in the world for free. Okay, but I really think there is something that happens when you invest the money you're going to pay attention more than likely. Because you're going get out of it exactly where you need even if you don't pay attention. You will learn that “Oh I paid money from that I didn't do anything with that. That kind of hurt. Maybe I won't do that again next time. Maybe I'll actually put the time and ever did when I put the money.”, Okay, but also side note let me put it here, don't forget where I was, a lot of people join my program, my mentorship. This is fascinating to some people but I just it's not fascinating to me. It's just real life people. Invest. It's one five hundred dollars to be in my mentorship. Twelve Week mentorship and it is fascinating because there are some people who never watch any of the trainings and they invested $2500. They don't show up for coaching. They may have they may have shown up once for coaching then I have some people who watch everything who come to coaching every single week and raise their hand every single time and they get what they came for, and I and I trust that each one of them although like in my element of control I'm like well of course I wish they would watch everything and I wish they would get coach and I wish they would raise their hand they would have so much more breakthrough I know that. I know that I know that I know that I know that I know that I can help them but but there is this element of trust like I trust that they got exactly what they came for. I trust that they could come to 1 coaching session and they could they could receive one nugget that absolutely changes the trajectory of their life forever and then they could even go on and say, “Oh I didn't get anything from that program. I only went to one coaching session.” and I'm over there like well I mean you got what you came for, you got that one breakthrough you had the ability to come to coaching. Every single week to raise your hand when it felt scary every single time some do some don't I believe that they all receive exactly what they came for I believe that they're gonna get out of it exactly what they need in that season. There will be life lessons that they will look back on that and think. Oh I'm so proud that I showed up for every single thing I got so many breakthroughs that was the best program I've ever been a part of or they may their thought may be ha I went to 1 session but that 1 session changed my life forever and what an abundant. To look at it. What an what an expansive way to view and how you invest in yourself and how you invest your income because shame I'll tell you what it's not going to give you the results or not going to give you what you came for if you shame and condemn yourself like oh my gosh I should have shown. I didn't show up big enough .I didn't get coached big enough. I didn't get coached enough and I wasted that money. I'm such a bad steward. Where is that getting you that is getting you that is sucking you down the shame cycle. We don't do shame over here. We do compassion and curiosity and we learn and we move forward. Okay, back to other things I've learned social media. I have hired a coach for social media. This is also so fascinating going back to the very first line of people who are like I should have this figured out or I can figure it out on my own. Okay, this is fascinating think again of the olympic athletes. They're not hiring a coach because they're not bad at what they do. They're really good at what they do. They're better than most people at what they do. They hire a coach to go even further. So actually what is the last time you allowed someone to challenge you. To go even further. This is such a trap of specially successful high achievers. They're like I've already achieved so much I've already gotten to this rank I'm already making more money than ever imagined possible when I graduated college and they just like cap themselves because no one's chat. They're not. Allowing anybody to speak into them to challenge them to give them more of an expansive view at things I think I'm pretty good at social media. It's gotten me pretty far in life that doesn't mean that I can't do better at it or improve at it or go to 2.0 level at it podcasting I was in a mastermind last year all around. Learning how to do that better learning how to get your message out there that the SEO. The difference behind the scenes things to like upload it all into thankfully I've hired all of that out I'm working in my zone of genius .I show up I record the podcast I've got somebody who edits. I have somebody who puts out the show notes in the email, and uploads it into Libsyb and gets it on Pinterest and gets it on Linkedin and gets it on YouTube, and then I have somebody else who is helping with my social media with my podcast Facebook group with my Instagram with turning some clips into these podcast episodes into reals to making quote graphics to putting more information out there for there. So I love it! I feel like I've arrived but I haven't arrived. There's always the next level. But I am truly people I also this is so fascinating because also look you still look at highly successful people and be like they have got to be a hot mess behind the scenes because. That's gonna take so much time everything they look like they're so calm and collected. But I'm like'all I am more than I ever have been in my life because I've learned how to operate and I'm learning how to operate in my zone of genius the thing that all I only I can do and I delegate out. All the rest of the things now you may be thinking oh must be nice. You can afford that arm must be nice that it takes forever to hire those people I want check you on that because yeah, you'll keep living into that story. The who not how is an excellent book on that and and all my life most of my life and I'm still evolving in this. I just hired people to kind of keep my head above water like oh I need somebody to do some of these tasks I don't want to do. Just please do these things, just handing off some things without any purpose and without any goals in it and now very recently I am learning I have got to hire people and give them goals give them deadlines give them specific things to be working towards to help my business grow, not just to hand things off on them but to have them working in their zone of a genius doing something that they're good at doing something I don't have to train them in. They already know how to do and they're good at it and they want to do it. And a scarcity trap also was like I don't know if I could find anybody who would actually want to do that for me that was one of my first growth mindsets when I first hired a housekeeper. I'm like I feel bad. They're like going to be cleaning my floors and mopping like my floors like I feel bad about that and I was like no that is such a scarcity way to think. They want to do that my house cleaner that is what she does for a living. She is good at it. She is fast at it. She makes good money on it and I don't have to do it and so I am able to bless somebody with a job bless the economy bless another family and I get to work in my zone. A genius with you. Putting out podcasts, putting out trainings to my membership, putting coaching inside of my membership and then somebody else gets to do that and it's like win, win, win for everybody. What a beautiful expansive way to look at it. Okay, parenting I've paid for parenting classes. Parenting coach to help me with some certain situations with my children because I want to I don't want to stop being like oh I'll just figure it out I'll just figure it out I just figure I don't have time for that. My children are growing fast. You don't have time to waste in the area where you are wanting to experience growth and there is no where where did this concept of shame come from around getting help. Okay, let me release that from you in the name of Jesus getting help. That's one of the healthiest, best, humblest, wisest things that you could ever do like stop living on an island trying to figure it out on your own like it is. So wise and expansive and fun to invest in an area to put your time attention resources money into something that you want a different result in that's wisdom There's oh I don't know what. My lab apples they were in the kitchen. Henry Cloud he came to our mastermind last year for 3 star mind mastermind above with Plexus and there's a verse and Proverbs that says seek out wisdom at all costs like pay for wisdom. Okay I'll but I'll put a fine it and put it in the show notes for actually let me pause this let me go find it. Okay I found it. It's Proverbs 4:7-9 in the Passion translation. It says “Wisdom is the most valuable commodity. So buy it!” that is my motto in life like if you've read the book of Proverbs. It is all about wisdom. You can find lots of great free business wisdom in there but to empty I've utilized that like oh I need wisdom. Oh this talks a lot about wisdom. Oh I need some more wisdom in these areas I want a hire coach because it is that important that I am going to spend money on it I am going to invest in it because I believe in the results that it can provide okay time management I have invested in coaches to help me with time management. I've been hiring and hiring I've invested in programs that help me know how to hire and what to hire how to hire questions to ask and interview all that good stuff I've hired to learn how to speak be a public speaker. That was not a natural gifting of mine. I've had opportunities to do that within my network marketing company in other areas and so I wanted to steward that well. I wanted to get better at something that was absolutely terrifying to me and there are so many people who are way better at at me right better at it than me and so having them their wisdom. They're also so. They call it a slipstream y'all like when you come under the wisdom or the teaching of somebody that has gone before you you can then accomplish things faster than they did so things that you know things that took me 15 .I you know I've been investing in this stuff I say fifteen years that's how long I've been married but I loved personal growth and development books even before when I was in college. I was reading stuff like like I was I only read nonfiction I've actually probably read less than 3 fiction books. That's an adult like I love it and so that's also incredibly important who are you under like who is the teacher are they at the top of their company are they the top of the area. Do they have a life that you want to have have? They created more peace to make more money. Will impart like it's a natural importation to learn underneath them, to seek guidance from them, to be coached from them because they've had breakthroughs in that area, so they have agency to help you have breakthroughs in those areas yourself. Marriage we've invested lots in our marriage and therapy ,coaching intensives like thousands and thousands of dollars in that area because it's important to us and because we got tired and worn out of just trying to figure it out on our own. And also let me let me dismiss this lie like you may have done some coaching or got some therapy or got some worked on an area of your life years ago and then it's years later and you're like well shoot I thought I already worked through all that stuff I can't spend money on that again. Like I have got to figure this out. It is such a scarce way to think about it. A beautiful expansive way to think about it would be like this makes perfect cinch I'm a completely different person than I was years ago now I have different challenges different invitations different opportunities. I'm a different person the people in my life are different people or you're finding like oh wait I'm the exact same. They're the exact same. They're still annoying me. There's always there's onions. It's layers to the onion and it's always an invitation to bring before the Holy Spirit. I also believe it's incredibly important who you learn from from a spiritual aspect. Just being careful about who speaks into your life and how and why and everything that I do and teach from is from a Biblical perspective and I do not apologize for that. There will be scripture. There will be vision exercises. There will be freedom prayer. We are going to hear from the Lord in your life and business, because that voice it should be the loudest. And most important way over mine. Always okay homeschooling. I have debated it in the past It's always a possibility for us in the future. The kids are at a good Christian school right now. But I evaluate, reevaluate that every year based on my children's needs based on the friends and things that they're exposed to based on an individual decision. But I've already gone ahead of the game and kind of learned some things about that because I don't know anything about that and so yes I have 82 tendencies. I could binge YouTube and blogs for days and days and days and days and days and learn a lot about those things I could save me tons of time which time is money. Let me say that again time is money and get that from a coach. Okay natural health, I have invested money that's in an area that is like intriguing to me. I love learning about it I love living off the grid. I love natural alternatives. It's why I am with the original gut health company Plexus because it focuses on the root cause of so many different illnesses that people think it's their lot in life that they have this autoimmune disease or whatever that the doctor said I'm sorry, there's nothing we can do there is something you can do by going to the root cause not something that a medication can fix but the root natural cause can provide a lot of healing. I love learning about that dreams like have dreams in certain seasons and so that's not something I knew much about so I've invested in. I took a course and had coaching and got lots of help with determining like learning about my dreams and like literally at night like what those mean how God speaks to us by the way. Did you know that one third of the Bible is dreams visions and prophecy. That's a pretty big chunk that's a chunk that I don't want to ignore just because of my religious background. I want to explore that with new eyes fresh eyes I want to get in the scripture myself. I want to read that one and learn about that. So anyways, those are a problem and I'm sure I'm missing some of them I have spent hundreds of thousands of dollars invests sting in me my so I was talking to some leaders of their day and they're like how much are you like spending on reinvesting back into your team like are you giving people prizess? What's your budget for that, and I said without a doubt the most valuable thing I have spent money for the growth of my team is me is the coaching that I have received which then I in in turn can go and coach them when I become healthier. They become healthier. It's a natural outpouring of who you are and how you lead this is the decree that we say every single time. When we start any lesson or any coaching inside of my prosperity purpose purpose mentorship. We say this decree out loud together. We set the intention I prosper as I cast off old entanglements and run freely in abundance spiritually emotionally physically and financially as I empower others to do the same. Wholeness is a natural outpouring of who I am and how I lead that is what I have been running after wholeness that is what anybody who interacts with me who is in my coaching program or my team that will be a natural outpouring that they will receive because. What I invested because I wasn't stingy or scarce or thinking I could continuing down the road of I should be able to figure this out or I'm invested in in the past like this won't be any different I've tried everything. Yeah I've tried everything before and nothing worked you live into the Story. You tell yourself. And I choose to tell myself I'm gonna get out of this exactly what I need.. That's how I go into any and everything that I invest my money or my time in um, another thing this is sorry I'm not laughing at you. Maybe I am like we were to my laughing emoji. I am ah okay well I know that's not this is not you. But and I have had people before say Well I don't mean what would I need therapy for what would I need a coach for and I literally a laugh time I know this is not you because you are here you are here you are growth minded leaders. That's why you are here. So I know this is not you but this is always so fascinating to me when someone's like well what do I get coached on? I'm like seriously like this person is to me that person is living in denial because I get coaching. All the time even though I know the tools I put this into practice I help other people but there's always a next layer for me but I get coaching all the time any time I notice that I am avoiding something I take note of it and I get coached on any time I am aware of a really uncomfortable feeling or a sad feeling or an angry. Feeling or response or something I just can't get over if there's ever a challenging conversation I need to have or have had and didn't go as planned or I have been avoiding if there is a result in a certain area I do not have if there was like a rub. Hard and hard interaction like with my spouse or with my friend or with my family all of those if I am fearful of trying something new fearful of growth if I am scared of success aren't scared of going backwards if I. Met my goal and I don't know what to do next or I didn't hit my goal and that felt really really, really bad. All of those things or opportunities to get coached and find freedom. But honestly, all of those things that I get coached on are disguised and everyday life circumstances such as my husband left his underwear on the floor again. He doesn't love me. He doesn't love me, he left his underwear on the floor did and I noticed how angry it feels our last word a couple weeks up 2 episodes before I couldn't found my jacket. Ah, couldn't find my jacket and we were going out the door for a spring break trip and I could not find my jacket but I was able to notice oh that's making me a little bit more high-tensed than I should be about not being able to find a jacket which then was an invitation for me to unhook another layer of perfectionism. It is beautiful and I believe god has called up god. God is I have come to set the captives free that is his will for us to unhook us from these things that trigger us to allow us to live a life of freedom of service of purpose without all these things getting in our way without us trying to muscle through and figure it out on our own. It's not about what I can do on my own it's about how much more of an impact could I make with help? So I am excited for that even greater impact that you are going to make when you hire the coach I will. See you guys inside of Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship.

96| QUICK time management tip that will blow your mind!

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Hey, welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose podcast! I'm Jessica Hefley. We have a quick time management episode for you today. It's one of the biggest topics that I get requests on talking about that's why we spend multiple weeks within the Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship on this very topic in great detail. I am really taking it from the angle of your thoughts, making powerful decisions, but also taking actual inventory of your time where you're spending it, Y’all know how to manage your time. The problem isn't that you don't know how to do it. The problem is why are you not doing it ,and we really get to helping you do it from a place of purpose and stewardship - which I'm going to give you a little taste of today on this quick time management tip when you hear this word.

How does it change everything about how you spend your time “I'm on assignment” ? That changes everything! “I'm on assignment”. What if you viewed how you spend your time as if you are on assignment? God is the owner of everything. You are just the manager. You are just called to steward the gifts, talents, and time that he has given you, and so if you are on assignment that one thought, that one practice can drastically affect how you spend your time. How and why and what you prioritize your time on because if you're just living your life doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, doing, for everybody for all things. All things. There's no “You're an assignment.” and so when “You're on assignment” when you are called to steward and multiply your business. When you are called to steward your family - those most important things in your life when you're on assignment, when some other things come in come along. It's so much easier to say no to because you're remembering that you're saying yes to your assignment. What you are called to do? What you are called to steward and multiply? I was looking up the definition of stewardship and it's a person who looks after or manages someone; who is responsible to take care of something. Okay, so again if God owns everything and you're simply the manager, I'm simply the manager. God is the owner, we are the managers. It's not ours. Time is not even ours. It is his, and so I want to be incredibly intentional. You are a person of purpose who lives on purpose is a theme in my life. What I live I try to live into every day because when I but when I remember. But I am a person of purpose who lives on purpose that affects how I spend my time, that affects where I spend my time, that will affect you and how you spend your time. So just this very, very simple, very quick episode. We don't have to make this long today. We go way more in depth on this topic inside of Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship, but today I'm on assignment. You woke up every morning thinking I'm on assignment better. Yeah let's go the night before and you're looking at your planner the night before planning out your day the next day - being super intentional with your time off, your rest time, your work time. Not just your work time. But exactly what you're going to do with your work time? That’s a whole other 10 x episode and but if you were to look at tomorrow- I'm on assignment. God, how can I steward my time? Well how can I steward the gifts, talents, responsibilities, my business, my income? How can I steward that well that will change and that will affect what you decide to do and we even spend at least a week even more on the coaching sessions on hiring and delegating and thinking about this place of your zone of genius, and you operating in that place and that special calling that only you can do nobody else in this world can do what only you can do and how we've got to delegate and hire out the other things that are getting in the way of you truly stewarding your time at a level that will multiply and help more people. Faster, truly simple, amazing way to live help you prioritize! Let me know on this simple concept, “I'm on assignment”, how that affects, how that changes your day to-day work, your day-to- day home and how that affects what you say yes and what you say no to. Blessings to you guys on that. You're on assignment…I take that seriously.

95| Invitation to UNhook Perfectionism.

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Hello! Welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose Podcast. I'm Jessica Hefley. How was Spring Break?How was your spring cleaning from last week's episode? I am almost there. If you’re watching on YouTube I have a little bit of a jenkety wall behind me, but I'm getting there I have made the powerful decision and ordered the supplies that I need to finish the wall in my office so I can record in the office and have a cool background. We're getting there. We're getting there, but I got my clothes done. I got a lot of the garage done. I got those spaces done that I utilize all the time and it already feels so much clearer so much easier. so much less resistant. So anyways, I got tell you the story. So today we're going to talk about this real life. I'm going to bring you real life, because so much of growth, so much of ownership, so much of empowerment, so much of leadership all comes from just personal experiences. It always fascinates me when people are like, “I don't know how to add value to the world” . I'm like, “Are you learning anything new?”, everything is a possible lesson. Every book I read, every sermon I listen to, but honestly, every single interaction with my family with people I don't like with people I do like, with the work like everything is the opportunity for you to learn something new. So for spring break. We're in a season where it's it's it's full. There's lots of things going on with my husband's work. He just came back from a men's retreat. We were just in the Dominican Republic on a Plexus Leaders retreat trip. So there's just a lot going on and I love to travel. It's my love language. If it was initially my pick I was like, “We got to go somewhere, babe!” We were going to go on a really awesome trip with some friends but that had to get canceled and so I was like waah waah, but my spirit just kept being like I kept looking at like places to go you know Colorado or Utah or go snowboarding or be in a beautiful restful environment and just felt like are we just doing that just to do that right? Now we've we've got a full year we've got other cool things. Exciting things we're going to be doing. Maybe it would be better to have a low-key Spring Break. So that's what we did but I couldn't stay home the whole time. I got just 2 nights in a cabin up in the Ozark mountains up in Jasper near Jasper, Arkansas. It's beautiful up there if you're from them hill country if you're from the Arkansas or anyways, it's really beautiful, just change a pace change a place change a perspective. You know some family time some low internet time .We hiked and we did a campfire we watched Chronicles of Narnia together. We did a puzzle, cooked some resurrection rolls for breakfast, just a couple just just low-key connecting. But husband said it was one of his most favorites Spring Breaks. Okay that was just for two days but here's the story is when we were packing up to go. We were only going for 2 nights and we weren't like doing anything fancy so we didn't need that much stuff. I didn't need nice clothes like get hiking boots. It was going be chilly, get some hoodies get a jacket and we're on our way, get a couple I just grabbed a couple snacks we already had in the at the house. But as we're walking out the door I can't find my jacket. Okay I've got this like a wonderful, like every time I wear I'm like this was such a smart purchase. Do you remember this? Things like it was it was it caught. You know it was not a cheap investment but I found it right before my Israel trip like we went like five years ago, maybe it was a year before COVID. So yeah, 2019 and I bought it at where was that place. It's a place in Russellville, oh it's a great little, small mom and pop store. Anyways I wasn't even looking for it I was just in there looking around and it was this awesome green jacket. It was waterproof. It was warm but it wasn't a winter jacket. It just felt like it could be used for all sorts of terrains when we were going to Israel. It was going to be kind of colder and rainy and I was like this is perfect. Anyways, I've used it so many times and sent but it's like a special occasion jacket I don't use it all the time I use it when I need it right? and I am a person who knows where things are if feel' a little to hear my haughty voice, just listen do last week's episode on humility. Maybe I need to go listen to it anyways, let's do it again? Ok so I know the point of this is. I know where my stuff is my husband doesn't know where his stuff is, and that he has too much stuff. Lots of judgments around all of his stuff but I put my jackets on the jacket hook. That's where I put them. I built this house specifically so I could hide my husband's crap, so I could hide the clutter, hide the things to create more peace for me as I didn't have to see it. We all have cubbies by where we coming in the garage door. We all literally have our own locker closet thing where you can put shoes a drawer for shoes. Closet for jackets and then up top where you can put like snowbibs and snow so winter supplies like everybody has their own. That's where I keep my jacket. Okay and so it was like a no-brainer. We’re walking out running out the door, and I open it to get my jacket to go out and my jacket's not there. y'all my jacket's not there. And me who puts things where they belong and the jacket's not there and it ends up being way a bigger deal than it should have been in the first place but as always if you are finding yourself overly frustrated ,flustered, angry, upset like disregulated. That is always an invitation to unhook something that usually hooks you that has hooked you a lot in the past that has made you so angry and upset. So I'm noticing so we're trying to so get in the car we're trying to get on the road. There's one of my favorite restaurants Cliff House Inn and we were trying to go to church and then leave right straight from church so we were to go to early service which we're late servicers. We like to sleep in have a slow lazy Sunday morning we were trying to get to early service and then hit the road because my favorite restaurant closed at 3 ,so we had to get there before because they were going to be closed on Monday and Tuesday and the whole reason I planned this trip. But so we could read eat these my favorite little restaurants but they were all going to be closed Monday, Tuesday so we had to go on Sunday anyways, I couldn't find my jacket at all and I'm noticing like what in the world? I can't find my jacket! Where's my jacket? I start snapping at my kids to get in the car. I thought I told you'd hurry up and I'm just like being really agitated with my husband. With my kids I'm feeling very flustered because I can't find my dang jacket y'all and I know where I put my things, and I can't find it. It's I'm like what in the world I'm going through everybody's cubby. I'm going through my husband's closet. Maybe my our house assistant accidentally thought it was Rob's jacket put it in Rob's closet. I cannot find my jacket, but now I am noticing that the fact that I can't fight my find my jacket is making me incredibly irritated. It is making me not so kind to my kids. It is making me feel rushed and anxious and if we're going to get that that feelings wheel right from a couple episodes ago. If we were to look at that I was not only like angry I was being like really critical on myself really like irritated furious, frustrated and angry and I was just like what in the world and so I took a step back I was like right, I am really upset about this jacket, and I was keeping my cool. Actually I was keeping my cool to some degree, but I was noticing the agitation was so right there on the edge and so I took a few moments to like regulate like put my hand in my heart be like okay Jessica you're safe. You're a smart person. Where could this possibly be? You know, like because in in that state of like flustered, anger and frustration. We can't find the things you know oftentimes in our business we're like I have to do this I have to make this much amount of money I have to this week did it it becomes so flustered that we become frustrated. We can't think straight we come from this place of like desperation and scarcity and flusteredness. I just don't want to operate from that place. So anyways, after I calm down a little bit. The kids are literally in the car I'm like I got to go make 1 more round I know that that jacket is in there and I really want this jacket because it's going to be cold. Ah, in the mountains and this is the perfect jacket for being outside when you're cold and I wanted it and so I go back to the house 1 more time and I check in an unlikely place we have a storm shelter and a couple months ago there was a tornado over the night and so I'd put in the mattresses in the storm shelter I'd put in like extra shoes. Candles snacks food and stuffed in the corner behind the bed in the shelf was my jacket so months ago thinking oh my goodness we're about to have a tornado that would be a great jacket to have side note like I'm a big preparer for tornadoes I grew up where tornado tornadoes were. So if you are ever or in your storm shelter or in your bathtub or in your closet always brings shoes your keys in your purse and I have thrown my computer any like valuable things real quick because I had a dear friend squirrel sorry I had a dear friend who was in a tornado and it leveled her house. She was in the closet destroyed her entire house. It was the middle of the night and she was by herself and when the tornado was over she opened the door. Everything was destroyed. She didn't have shoes. So I mean everything was destroyed. There's nails debris all of these things and she couldn't even like walk out of her closet to go get help because she didn't have shoes. So side note have shoes. Well I also packed my jacket. In the storm room shelter I found it congratulation Jessica where's my noise makes um sorry I love playing. Um. Okay, Jessica found her jacket, everybody celebrate, and I'm in the car and I'm noticing all these things I'm like whoa! Why did that bother me so bad that I could not find my jacket? Then I realized it was another layer of perfectionism meaning, I was so upset at myself because I put so much judgment on other people who can't find things. I get so frustrated from my husband and my kids when they can't find things. I'm like put it where it belongs, then you'll know where it is ,duh! I have closets. I built you guys spaces for your shoes, if you'll just put stuff where it belongs you'll know where to find, and so I just had so much judgment around people who lost their things are people who couldn't find their things and so when I was in a situation where I couldn't find my thing I did it wasn't where I put it and it was like oh press down measured poured against you judgment heaping on myself and it was so interesting to me. It was this light bulb moment of, “Hey what would it look like in this moment just to give myself some grace?”. Sometimes people can't find their things. What if it doesn't mean anything about them. What if the fact that I couldn't find my jacket doesn't mean anything about me? Sometimes people can't find their jackets. And just untangling the judgment attached to that. Untangling this like oh no people like me don't do stuff like that like people like me do stuff like that sometimes people like you as a successful business owner sometimes you have down days. Sometimes you don't meet your goals. Sometimes you're not on your A game. Sometimes you try really hard and and didn't It didn't succeed. If you stop making that mean that you're a failure or you're a whole or horrible person or you're not a good leader or whatever. Whatever, whatever and they use that as an invitation for grace. An invitation to love and accept yourself and your imperfections. This silly jacket story was an invitation for me to love and accept myself and my imperfections it may seem so silly to you but to me it was like oh okay, another layer. This is a way that I can love myself care for myself. Be easier on myself and other people and because when I love and accept myself and my imperfections. It allows me to love and accept others in their imperfections which leads me to a conversation had with with my coach today and which ought be a whole other episode. It was about lifting weights I'm going to do a whole episode of this on the shame around starting ,stopping, starting stopping, starting ,stopping being a goal. I'm do that the next. 1 of the next 2 episodes will be all about this. But anyways we also talked about had an uncomfortable conversation with somebody and she asked me these 3 questions and she was like how could I see feel and understand this person and I was like I know I should like see their point. How could I see feel and understand them and she was like we get to meet somewhere where they actually are not where we wish they would they should be without judgment. Okay, we get to meet someone where they actually are not where we wish they could be without judgment and what would it mean for me. To look and meet myself right where I am without judgment. This whole concept of acceptance also proves to be need to be as a whole another episode is because we are constantly feeling like we should be better than this. They should be better than this. There's this judgment cycle of like they should be perfect or they should be better or they know better did and it's just this like shame heaping cycle when someone just wants to be met where they are loved where they are accepted where they are yes, they can be challenged but if they're constantly feeling like they're not good enough or they're not enough or they're behind and the key factor here is if you're constantly feeling like you're not good enough. You're behind. You're full of shame. You messed up again. Okay, coming from that place is not going to motivate you coming from the place of “Oh I'm human. I am capable of making a decision so my life can move forward. I am courageous enough to start again. I am going to make mistakes. I am an imperfect being but I am willing and choosing to show up again.” Whoa I lost my jacket! Y’all I lost my jacket. I will lose something else in the future. But it was such a tangible life experience for me to explore. What was the underlying root there? The underlying root there was perfection and judgment that I had on myself and I had another people. The underlying invitation there's always an invitation to unhook a trigger to bring healness healing and wholeness. And so I always want like if the invitation is present if the invitation is there I want to accept the invitation. I want to learn what that life experience has for me and I want to teach and challenge and encourage you guys for anything that comes up in your life that's irritating or frustrating, or get out this feeling wheel like the whole point of when I had you guys do this 3 times a day for an entire week was to first of all even be in touch with what you're feeling in the first place but also notice every time you're feeling one of those uncomfortable or hard or angry or sad like every time you're feeling one of those emotions it is an invitation. You can bring before the Holy Spirit to find some freedom to not have to struggle with that again in the future. To learn the lesson that is there for you and so then you can move forward with more grace with more acceptance and with more motivation to do it differently the next time because you've come to a place of love and acceptance of yourself without judgment. So you then can move forward just how you can come to that place with those that you lead those that you coach, meeting them exactly where they are, and helping them feel seen. Feel felt ,feel felt and understood. Meeting yourself where exactly where they are not where they should be, but where they are. We can work with truth. We can't work with denial. That is such a powerful statement. I can work with truth. I can when I coach somebody I can work with them if they're going to tell me the truth. I can't work with somebody who's in denial or not willing to take ownership ,because ownership sometimes feels uncomfortable. Because we've got to take ownership some things we haven't done or some places we aren't yet but love and acceptance truth the truth will set you free. We can work with the truth! Amen and amen! So I want to challenge you this week in a seemingly mundane circumstance in your life - your marriage, your work, your home. You are noticing that you're getting triggered. How can you then journal ,explore get out the feelings. Bring that before the Lord and find some freedom ,find some healing, find some truth to that situation. So when it happens again in the future it'll be different because you'll be different!

God bless! We'll see you next time.

94| Trading in PRIDE for HUMBLE PIE.

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Hello welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose Podcast. I am Jessica Hefley, and today we're serving up some humble pie because who doesn't want that instead of pride is before the fall? I’d rather eat humble pie instead of fall and so I want humility to in today's episode. It is one of the core when I started my coaching program a couple years ago it used to be called Leading Ladies now it's called Prosperity With Purpose. It can evolve. It can change. You can do whatever you want, you're the business owner! I just felt like this was clearer and more fitting to the purpose and long term mission of what we are about. I did core values, and humility was one of the core values that I still want to live into. I still want to highlight. I still think is important and but kind of the preface humility was she is tender talking in terms of my clients talking in terms of the of the women that I serve. And my ideal client right? She is tender. Heart humility is she is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and is willing to learn a new thing so really king in there on. Open towards repentance open towards his loving kindness that leads to change and also open to learning a new thing so I'm going to cover 5 quick areas of why humility is so important in your business and in your life and I want this to be on the forefront of my mind on the forefront of my actions. And so I want to help and spread that message to you and impart that to you because it is so important. It is such a differentiating factor in how we lead because we are Christ's followers and humility is an important part of that and how and we demonstrate that and our work and our relationships how we model that. And so here's the 5. Number one, around humility because I long to be I want to be humble. It's not our natural tendency to be humble. But I know that to be more Christ-like I want to be more humble, so that is what feeds my desire to do this. Ok, so but number 1 humility will require you to be a beginner. Are you willing to learn a new thing? You're a rookie at leading your business in 2024 You're a rookie. You have never done this before. Are you willing in this day and age in this day of social media and this day of technology and this day of culture. You've never done it before you may have done a lot of things for 1,2,3,4,5,10 years but in the past, but you've never done it in this present day and age so you have to embrace. With humility being a beginner trying new things different ways to work our business different ways to think different ways to act and be and be willing if what we have been doing in the past that used to work is it anymore. Be willing to be a beginner!

Number 2- be open to the possibility that you are wrong. A big piece of humility is being open to the possibility that you could be wrong, not being so right? That's what pride the opposite of humility is pride and pride is like, I am right. I am doing this, right?I'm up here. You can't tell me what to do like it's this haughtiness that there's a difference between confidence and and haughtiness. Confidence is a good thing. Haughtiness is like this, I don't know this posture, this energy, this presence. I'm better than you I can't be wrong. But I am positive that there's no other way to look at this no other options and and but also a part of humility is so many people that's one side of it. As part is being open to the possibility of being wrong. But also when you are going back to number 1 being a beginner trying new things put yourself out there. You will make mistakes. It will not be perfect and so a part of the human experience is being willing to make a mistake. Being willing to do it wrong. Being willing the reason we are not perfect is why we we need a Savior. Okay because we can't do it perfect, we're not going to never hurt anybody's feelings or never do anything wrong that doesn't mean that we shouldn't do anything! Embrace that you're human. Embrace that you will make mistakes. Embrace that you have a Savior who is perfect, so you do not have to be. But be open to the possibility of being wrong or doing something wrong. Okay, Number 3 - Be the first to apologize. In taking a space of humility and eating that good old humble pie and just being a wholehearted roundabout person is just wise to be the first to apologize. Don't sit there and wait to be justified, wait for somebody to take your side, wait for somebody to understand you, wait for “but you don't understand what they did..” right to be the first to apologize, be the first to forgive. That will give you way more power over the situation over the other person. All those things be the first we can consider being the first to apologize. Number 4- How can you consider another a big part of humility, “Humility isn't thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” which goes to my point. How can you consider another? So humility isn't thinking of yourself like thinking less of yourself. It isn't putting yourself down, thinking that you're less than and thinking that you're not good up. That's not humility. It's simply just thinking of yourself less. And thinking of other people more. It's not never considering yourself. It's just being..it's just a posture of thinking of other people. The posture of humility, pride is like “No this is what I want!” “This is what I need.” “This is the way it should go!” “This is the only way it should be.” and humility is like “Okay oh how can we consider this other part? This person's opinion? This person's point of view? This person's perspective? It's considering them. It's not thinking of yourself less. It's just thinking of yourself a little bit less in quantity of time so you can say think about others more. Number 5- You may not know at all a way to experience humility - a way to live out humility is having the posture and the thought that you may not know it all. You may not have all of the information. This has been incredibly helpful for me. From someone who used to be incredibly judgmental and think that her way was the best way. It was the only way to do it. I thought of it. It has to be the best. Why is anybody else thinking about this, you have to understand that people make decisions in their life and business without you knowing all of the information, so you can ask curious questions to try to understand. But I often now take the posture when someone does something that I don't think is a good idea or that's something I wouldn't want to do, I don't go about and saying that's the stupidest idea ever, I can't believe I did that can you believe I did that?" I now take the posture of “Interesting, that's interesting.” and then if I want to learn, just even pausing and saying that's interesting because it allows the space of I may not know all the information there. There probably is something else to the story that I am not keen to. I did not know as to why they did that as to why they made that decision and I'm open to the possibility. There could be more to the story. There could be more information and if it is that important then I should ask curious questions never make assumptions another really big piece of humility is. I heard this in a bill Johnson Sermon a long time ago and it really struck out with me is “We cannot Judge. people's assumptions.” So it's so easy for us to be like, “Well they did this because a dot da da da da or I know that they're dealing with it and that's why they did that we cannot judge someone. We do not know why somebody did that something that they did. We do not know why somebody said something to us even if it was hurtful or painful or whatever, or why they made the choices that they make we cannot make it. It is not wise to make assumptions of others and that is something between them and the Lord and again, that's where you can ask questions to learn more conversations but you may not know it all. So quickly I just wanted I just feel like how humility is important, and I wanted to put on the forefront of my mind. I've really tried to there’s multiple opportunities for me to speak up for myself or say something mean about somebody or defend myself or try to over-explain. Over-explaining yourself as a trauma response, by the way, like you feel like you have you're not saying enough because you're so terrified that you will be misunderstood. You will be misjudged. You'll be mis-perceived and the Lord has just really invited me this week and some on some occasions where I have been misunderstood or misperceived by others to really take it before the Lord like let him fight my battles let him be my defender. Let the fruit of my life speak for itself and may I encourage you in that as well when you may often feel like you want to get defensive or prove your point or overexplain your area, so other people will believe you or trust you or be on your side or whatever, like humility is like I just keep doing what the Lord has called you to do. And the fruit of your life will speak for itself. That's a stance, that's a place that's a posture that's and and it's a place of like trust it's a place of intimacy with the Lord. It's a place of allowing him to be your defender. It's a place of and working out your ish with him instead of talking to everybody gossiping or talking to everybody else about it or trying to get other people on your side. It's has been a true area of growth for me for sure and don't we all want more areas of growth? I mean we don't always want them right, but we want what the areas of growth will produce in us. They produce character. They produce endurance. They produce fruit, and the fruit of your life will speak for itself. So I'm proud of you guys, proud of you guys who are really, really wanting to grow in the area of humility in all areas of your life and business. And who knows maybe I'll do who knows who maybe I'll do an episode of all of my values but let me tell you them real quick while they're on the forefront of my mind kind of the core values of my business behind the scenes are Growth, Awareness, Stewardship, Transformation, Humility, Honor and Wholeness. So let me go ahead and read these explanations. I think it's so important and for what you do like your core but we have a core values as a family, and I also have a core values of my business because those are what I want to operate out of what I want to teach about what I want to embody. What do I want to be an example of and what I believe at leading lady. What I believe somebody who prospers with purpose. Entails so growth. So if these resonate with you I would love to explore that more I would love to partner with you inside of Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship because these are the core values that I believe in a woman that is a business owner that will change the world that embeds true prosperity with purpose growth. She is called to multiply her impact personally and professionally and leaves a legacy that impacts eternity. Number 2 Awareness- she is committed to the most important work of taking her thoughts captive and is self-aware curious and compassionate about those thoughts toward herself and others. Stewardship- she identifies her purpose and takes ownership and accountability of her partnership with the Holy Spirit and authority in Christ in her calling transformation. She has hope her future will be different from her past and she believes in the possibilities of change for the better. A renewed mind equals a transformed life. Humility - she is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and she is willing to learn a new thing. Honor- she honors her time boundaries and commitments to herself and others. Through nourishing routines that feed her soul from a place of rest and wholeness she prospers as she casts off old entanglements and runs freely in abundance spiritually emotionally physically and financially as she empowers others to do the same. Wholeness is a natural outpouring of who she is and how she leads and as I reread the humility one , I just wanted to touch on 1 more thing real quick because it is key. We cannot rush over the part of repentance. I'm going to read the definition. Well my core value of humility again. She is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and is willing to learn a new thing his loving kindness leads to repentance part of humility is repenting. When you notice something that you have done notice something that you have thought notice the way that you have lived is repenting that before the Lord and confessing that to anybody else that that that that has affected but there is ah a key to freedom and repentance so may. We don't live our life in denial. We don't live our life not taking ownership of our choices. We live a life of repentance because we know that when we repent we can turn from another way. It is it is a representation of humility. We're turning away from that old way going a new way which is also why taking your thoughts captive and thinking. Specific thoughts on purpose is so important because that will lead you to a life of of repentance that will lead you to a life of humility and not pride and like we said I'd rather have humble pie than pride before the fall! Amen. Amen. So these things are important. in your business and in your life and I'm so proud of you for living them out. See you next time.

93| Want To Free Up More Mental Space? It's SPRING CLEANING time, let's get organized!

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Welcome back to the Prosperity with Purpose Podcast I'm Jessica Hefley and we are doing a little spring cleaning around here. You may think that your cluttered house or your this and that and that has nothing to do with your business, but it does because clutter equals unmade decisions. This is what is happening inside of your head. It is what is happening inside of your body, and it is what is happening all around yo’ house. So we're going to do a quick episode how to spring cleaning. You're gonna do like note your tangible house like tangible things around your house. We're going to help you make decisions because you are capable of making decisions, so your life can move forward. That was a transformational anchor thought for me. As a recovering perfectionist I got coaching years and years ago on this and she helped me have this tremendous breakthrough that decisions were so hard for me because I was so scared that I was going to make the wrong decision. So pick picking out paint colors was debilitating… debilitating! What if I pick the wrong one? What if I don't like it? It all of that came down to this - you are capable! I am capable of making a decision, so life can move forward. You can change your mind later but you got to make some decisions so life can move forward, so life can go can move and not stay stagnant and stuck. Four areas I'm going to challenge you and you're actual living space this week because this does have to do with your mental health. This does have to do with your mental, emotional health. This does have to do with your spiritual health - you doing these things. Choosing not to have clutter in these areas will mean will mean that you made a decision which will also free up so much mental space but give you the agency and the courage then to also make decisions in your business. To not freeze at indecision, to not freeze at imperfection, to not freeze and you don't know you don't know what to do now. You know exactly what to do! You know exactly what to do! Just do it and if you make a mistake or it's not as good as you wish then you can fix it later, but you got to do something so life can move forward. You are capable of making decisions to create peace for your life and that's what we're about round here . To create more peace so you can make more money. That's what the Prosperity with Purpose Mentorship is about that's what our basic intro Mini-course How To Get Off The Hot Mess Express for ninety seven bucks. That's what it is for to help you start to unclutter your life. To help you to make decisions because you are capable of making decisions to move. The 4 areas - here you go 1) The space you've been avoiding the most! That's your first space you're going to declutter over spring break over spring cleaning or whatever you all got one. Everybody got one. It's an area. It's a room. It's a closet. It's a drawer. It's you just stuff stuff in there for forever. Here we go here is where we're starting the place that you have been avoiding the most that is what you were going to declutter and clean first. That's the one we do. One of my one of my biggest and best pieces of advice is do the thing you're avoiding the most first - get it out of the way. Get it done! Everything after that will seem easier. Everything after that will be easier and it will be less work. Do the thing that you are avoiding the most first that's a word. Number 2 I want you to clean your desk or office space. This is something that I'm doing over spring break. We're in a new home. But I for somehow forgot to do my office like it's just plain and I wanted a really pretty black ground if you're watching me on YouTube lI'm in my closet because I have this window here and I kind of like a little mini-desk but also in my office I want to have a beautiful background I want that space to be a space that I love to be, and that I can quickly utilize that I can turn my video camera on and make a video and everything is ready to go so your desk office space create a space for you and there's still like shame for six first six months of my business I work my business on my kitchen table. That's fine with me. But if it but get some organization get some pins get a stapler get your plugins that you need get a some of y'all need to get some buy a printer some of y'all need to go today and actually buy a printer or go buy ink for that printer. Okay, a business owner has a utilizing working printer. What are those areas that just it's like been annoying and you just have been putting off what can you do to make your office area your office work your office space more user, friendly with less resistance. Do you need to buy some sticky notes.? Do you need to actually clean off the top of your desk? Need to buy some new extra notepads and do you need to organize your bills? What is it about that space? How can you make - this is in the book Atomic Habit it's like how can you create the least resistance for the things that you need to do most? Okay, so make it prettier. Maybe you need to do something pretty. And there but a pretty background, paint it I don't know but make your office work space uncluttered and easy to access. Something that you enjoy. A place that you want to go to often and a place that when you go there to work everything that you need to work is there. Okay. Pretty easy. Number 3 your clothes. We actually have foregone a big spring break trip this year actually, had a really amazing trip planned our friend invited us on, but it got canceled. That's another story, so we were sad. Because we had huge big plans and then we didn't have any plans and then we just that was an invitation for us to just to evaluate this is a season. My husband just got back from a long men's retreat and there's lots of things going on at his work and honestly since we moved in our house about four or five months ago there still are some things that we just need to get done. I'm taking my own advice here like there's some things we need to get done around the house to help us feel more at home. I want to do some things in my office. He wants to clean his office. We've been throwing everything in the third garage. That's my number 1 thing is the space. We've been avoiding the most is our third garage. Yeah, but just like I've threw all my Christmas stuff in there. We still have stuff that. Everything that we didn't find its permanent place when we moved in as in the third garage and our third garage kind of opens up to our pool area. It has 2 doors you can like you can park a car in there if you want to or you can open it from the other side and we can use it as like when we have large parties we could put seating at table and and seating in there. We'll put our floaties and pool supplies and stuff in there. So anyways, it accesses to the back part of our yard to our pool and it's full a junk right now and we actually have like this really cool dolly our builder built this in where it's a dolly like one of those things you called dumb waiter, but it's huge and it can hold up to 300 pounds. It comes down from the ceiling. If you're watching me on YoutTube I'm doing our motions where you you're welcome. Um, it comes down from the ceiling you can pile boxes stuff up to 300 pounds of stuff on it and then it goes up into the attic and so you don't have to carry all the heavy stuff up the stairs. So it’s actually really amazing and so we actually just need to utilize it and put a ton of stuff up in the attic which will take me and Rob to both be there at the same time someone loading it someone up in the attic unloading it. We're going to do that this next week because that's the biggest area that we have been avoiding. But also what I'm going to do this week, number three was clothes. This is what I want you to do because I was you can see some of my clothes you get it inside scoop if you're watching on Youtube. Clothes, clothes that can be 1 of the biggest areas of clutter of unmade decisions. How many of you have a closet full of clothes but you go in and you're like oh I can't find anything to wear! I'm tired of saying that because I do have things to wear or if I keep saying I don't have anything to wear. It is time to release it. Go watch some KonMari videos. What is the Magic Art of Tidying Up. What is her tidying book? It seems silly. She like thinks and thinks things for bringing them joy and then gets rid of them if it doesn't bring you joy anymore. Get rid of it. There is freedom. There is more so brain space when you declutter when you make powerful decisions to release something to get rid of something and so I'm going to be going through my clothes. Because I don't like when I come in and I'm like I don't know what to wear I don't know what to work when I'm literally like touching 20 different things I'm going to maybe you just need to organize like give your ah ah and great thing to do is find 5 to 10 outfits that you love that you love because here's also what happens. And I tend to like not wear the clothes that I love because I'm like saving them from special occasions where are the clothes you love wear are the clothes that make you feel good. Okay, so get together like 10 shirts 10 outfits that you love just rotate those. You feel confident in those, they fit good. Get rid of the stuff that just doesn't fit good. Get rid of the stuff that you got to keep pulling and tugging on and that just like doesn't you just like are like oh I don't even like this doesn't even feel good. Why do you keep wearing it? You don't have to eat it. So anyways, this an invitation and this invitation for me to kind of get some. We're moving out the winter clothes bringing down the spring clothes, figuring out what really brings me joy and getting rid of some stuff or putting some stuff to the side that's uncluttering my mind out of the way. So I do have like I have another closet upstairs where I keep like my fun Plexus has provided a lot of like really fun opportunities. For things that I wouldn't have otherwise like I've got some formal dresses. I've got a lot of like dresses up when they take us to Hawaii every year just hawaiian dresses, beach dresses just some fun form other things I don't have down here cluttering my space down here. That's okay, like maybe you need to. Have some of those fun pieces that you really only wear once a year or on a special occasion. Maybe put those in another closet. Go put them in your guestroom closet if you have the space or figure something creative out or maybe get rid of them who knows but close is the third one and then the fourth area is I want you to pick one of the most frequently used. Bases that just it just just needs some attention you know like it's just gotten overwhelmed like maybe it's your silverware drawer like maybe you've just thrown junk in there and you're just like okay it's time I use this drawer all the time. What could I do to? What could this small thing that I could do to provide more peace for my life is just taking a pause and doing that and maybe it's the the top of your vanity like in the bathroom. Maybe it's just covered and hairspray and face washes and makeup and hair stuff and maybe you just pause and you take a moment. This is a space I see every single day. What can I do to get more organized some so really, really like silly thing that I did last month a couple months ago but I was just so proud of myself. Okay, so I had this makeup bag that was a gift it was a gift for my company and I had been using it for years. It was like the perfect size it held all my makeup stuff but it was hideous to me like it was so ugly. Like neon pink and neon purple and I was just like every time I used it I was like I love that this holds my makeup I love it. But it's ugly so I finally just got on Amazon and got me a beautiful new neutral makeup holder and ah and every time I see it now it brings me joy. That's another thing that she teaches you in that KonMari whoever she is. She's like if it doesn't spark joy for you get rid of it like it. It is okay for you to have things in your life that spark joy I went through a season once where I got rid of the socks that always went down when I wore them that drove me crazy. I just done got rid of them. Okay we keep to this is the example of like why do we? We have choices when life is so rushed, and we just keep wearing the same thing that drives us crazy or keep putting on the sock. that we know is going to go down and we're going to be pulling on it and tugging on it forever. We keep using this thing that is just so hideous to us like take a pause. What is something that you frequently use so often that you just need to replace? Are you just need to declutter or maybe you need to get a couple things from the store to help you organize that space or really what you need to do is probably just get rid of some Stuff. Don't get in this notice if you just keep buying organizational bins or baskets or things. To organize your crap when you just need to get rid of some stuff. So anyways, I'm excited for you for this invitation for you to spring clean those 4 areas again where the space you've been avoiding the most is number one get it out of the way number 2 is your desk office space have that be an inviting welcoming. Easy accessible place where it has everything that you need number 3 your clothes that is something that you will need to use every single day please wear Clothes. So do something about that to make that space lest make some decisions you are capable of making decisions to create peace for your life. You are capable of making decisions. So life can move forward and the number 4 is just a frequently used space something that you can do to that space to help you feel more peace feel more ease and ultimately doing all of this is going to help you feel more in control. Okay, that's why. That's with these these cluttered spaces. They feel out of control so they're creating back to the good old feelings wheel they're creating these feelings of chaos or avoidance or um, can I just say chaos again. Like it is which is the opposite of peace and so if you want to create. Maybe you clean out your car the trash in your car like just make the powerful decisions trying to snap into the microphone make powerful decisions that actually don't take very long. But you avoiding them creates more chaos in your life, so create some more peace for your life make powerful decisions. Clutter is nothing more than unmade decisions. Notice how that also is happening in your thoughts and your brains. But that's another episode. We got lots of them. So check the ones in the past check the ones in the future. Still continuing to get so much positive feedback about the 5 part money Mindset Series episode 85 through 89 check that out if you home on Spring break or going on a walk. But anyways here we go I'll let you go have fun decluttering. It's important you are capable of creating more peace for your life.

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92| What are you resisting or avoiding? Why strategy isn’t the problem.

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Hey, welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose Podcast I am Jessica Hefley and hopefully you listened to last week because we are going to touch on it a little bit with this good old feelings wheel it is going to help you when you coach your team or your employees or your line of business. What a strategy isn't the problem, actually a no strategy is not your problem. A strategy is important. But so many people are just seeking “Tell me what to do”. “Tell me how to do this.” “Give me the exact step by step”. I don't have to think of anything and I just do these things. Oh how I wish that was the answer but most people really do know what they need to do they know what they need to do in their business. They know what they need to do in their marriage, their parenting. They know what they need to do to for their health. They know for the most part, the things they need to do you know if you need to lose weight you need to exercise you need to track what you're eating. You need to get more water and need to get more of those things to grow in order to grow your business. You know the things you do you need to market. You need to sell yourself on social media. You need to be there. You know what you need to do and more than likely there is tons of resources training videos. All the things that I've already told you what to do 500 times. I'm more curious about why you're not doing it. You know the things you need to do for the most part and I am not a disser of strategy understand that strategy is important once you know why you're not doing it or more importantly. Know why you are have the vision for where you are going and why is it is important to do this in the first place like what is your self-concept as a leader what you live into the story. You tell yourself. So if you tell yourself I'm unsuccessful. This isn't going to work I've tried that before you make perfect sense that you just continue. To live into that story. It's not working. You've tried that before and it didn't work and you're not a leader. You keep it's like a self-fulfilling prophecy if your identity is “Oh well I'm not a healthy person”, or “I'm not like her”, or “I'm not as extreme as tha"t” or whatever you have to notice. There is something behind there of why you aren't doing it. So why I'm talking about this today? I always come and talk to you about my real life experiences. I have been doing a bunch of coaching calls on my Plexus team. So I've got some leaders I'm trying to help get backup to 3 stars and above, that can come to the mastermind with us and I know a lot of a lot of my listeners are network marketing professionals a lot of my listeners aren't, so this will pertain to both of you and how you can coach others to help them get the results they want so hang tight with me for a second but I was coaching them all. And I have them fill out this coaching call form before the call and I will link that at the bottom for you guys to help equip you with that I found years ago. I used to do a lot of coaching calls and it was just ended up me telling them what to do strategy, like okay you go do this, this, this, this and this that's what I thought. Ah, good leader was supposed to do and I I was successful. I had the track record. So I thought they just needed me to tell them what to do what ended up happening is we I wasted a lot of my time and I hate wasting my time. I wasted my time. I wasted their time. We'd have this great call, and then I wasn't seeing the results. They still weren't going and doing the things even though they had a clear strategy even though they knew the things they needed to do. They weren't doing it and so years later through my John Maxwell training and definitely through my Certified Christian Life Coach training I've learned to be a professional question asker, and that is my advice. Do you shut up and ask more questions? It helps them become aware. It helps them evaluate themselves. It helps them come up with the ideas. Nobody really likes being told what to do like if it's their idea. They're more likely to do it. They have ownership in it. They have empowerment in it. They they understand why they need to do it. It's not just somebody saying do this and and behind the scenes are kind of like I have no idea why she said to do this. This doesn't make any sense to me but she said no when you ask the right questions it reveals the the deeper things. So, I have a whole coaching call for them and I'll go through all of it with you but the most powerful question on the entire sheet is what are you avoiding or resisting if you if and you will you guys? are you. Want to you guys want to prosper you want you want to prosper with a purpose. You know your identity. You know your purpose and your listeners of this podcast you you listened to the old episodes you get it so you are going to allow yourself to ask this question. Most people won't. Because most people will just try to steam ahead with their life and business doing the things and it feels like they have their stinking foot on the break and it feels hard and it feels resistant and they're not resting and they're just hustling and then they burn out or they're lost that love and feeling when it comes to the work again because they lost the purpose behind it. They aren't in touch with their body and their feelings and what their thoughts are actually creating within their physical body holding up the feeling well for you YouTube watchers. Okay, so because if you will be honest about what you are avoiding or resisting I mean those are uncomfortable things. There's a reason you're not doing that live video. There's a reason you haven't been talking about the business more. There's a reason you haven't been creating community in your team. There's a reason whatever the thing is you're resisting, there's a reason, and let's get curious about it because that's what's going to give you the breakthrough not another strategy session not another waste of time for somebody and waste of time for yourself. Getting to be able to identify why you're not doing that that will help free. You? Okay so let's go over the questions on the coaching call. But again like they all did all these calls but what we spent the most time on and where people had the most Aha! moments. The most like oh my goodness I've never thought about it that way. Oh wow this is really going to make a difference is when we covered that question so you can just do that on yourself right now like if you're not doing coaching calls for other people. What personally in your area of work in your area that you have been called to what are you avoiding or resisting. Doing in that area that will actually create more peace for you if you get that over with or you have that conversation or you journal about why you're feeling that way or why you're feeling stuck because at the root of it, are you feeling embarrassed? Are you feeling insecure? are you feeling helpless? Are you feeling confused? Are you worried that you'll be rejected? You have fear of success? Do you have fear of what that would mean for you? What that would look like for you and do you feel insignificant? Would you feel weak if you did something and it didn't turn out? It was fascinating years, years, years, and years ago I took some of my top level leaders on a like retreat to California. We went to a conference. It was like a Christian leadership conference with worship and really great speakers. It was awesome and then we did something scary which is always my favorite thing to do is push my team, push my leaders because it's also pushing me. To do something they're terrified of because after somebody does something they are terrified of, they will walk ten feet taller, they'll act a little bulletproof and even though they may have been scared out of their ever loving mind, it gave them some courage, some bravery.What's this I just wrote this quote down last night. It was about courage. It was so helpful to me hold on. Let me find it here in my notes real quick and “Courage isn't the absence of fear, it's the ability to take action”. While experience experiencing fear so many things so people are like oh this feels terrified now courage is still doing the thing even though you feel terrified and so courage is huge anyways I had them do this trapeze like we had. It was a literal trapeze school. It was on the Santa Monica Pier you could see the ocean in the background. We had to go up like climb up this huge ladder. I told the story of 4 on a episode long time ago. But and we climbed up this ladder high to the very top of a platform where you then had to have this oh a sort of baton. It's a literal bar that you hold on and let and jump off the platform and just swing, freefall and there's only a net underneath you and you are up, up, up, up high. It's terrifying and so we did that and then we did it where somebody else was swinging like this is literal trapeze like you've seen it at a circus so somebody else starts swinging, a guy starts swinging by his knees so he's swinging by his knees and then they time it perfectly. They got a microphone and they tell you to jump off the platform. You swing a couple of times you dangle by your knees. You're dangling by your knees. He's dangling by his knees and the timing matches up where you grab arms and you let go and he just holds you. It's so wild and so terrifying and 1 of the coolest things in my life I've ever done. I don't know why I'm telling you this story. I think has to do with pray courage. Anyways, getting your people, getting yourself to do things that they are scared of is my favorite because I know the replications I know the lasting effects I know the memories that that entails but also what that does for their bravery and courage so doing trapeze lessons may be so unrelated to your current business. But it's not because it allowed them to feel the feelings of being scared and then choosing to do them anyways which is like basically everything you're going to do for the rest of your life. So but said that the first six months of your business is really just learning how to regulate your nervous system because you're doing something you're terrified to do, and I would agree that it doesn't stop at six months like you're constantly. We think that we master something we're like oh no I mastered fear or oh no I mastered we're gonna do episode on this I mastered the fear of me and I'm not people pleasing - isn't an issue for me. I've already mastered that. There's always an invitation for another layer of that. Okay I am getting off track but it's good. Okay there. We got coaching call. So let me go through the questions real quick on what? Okay what first of all why I do this is I think it's so important for somebody to take agency before my time with them before their time. You your time is valuable you you don't have to wait till you're as a high level up as me your time is valuable now and this teaches these teaches the people that you are coaching to hold themselves accountable. Okay, so here's the question I'm gonna tell you all the questions and then I'm gonna explain a little bit. Why I ask these questions. Okay and they have to fill this out before our call. At least 24 hours before our call so they have to be thinking about these things they have to be evaluating themselves. They have to be okay. So anyways, I asked them what book you're currently reading. What is your biggest strength as a leader. What are your daily, weekly, monthly tasks that you do for your ah business what are you avoiding or resisting what is your work routine like how many hours a day and a week do you work your business. What is your goal. Why have you not already reached that goal and then I have them do a goals exercise of where they want to be and a year from now. But then also working backwards if you want to be here a year from now where do you need to be in six months. three months. and one month and then at the end I have we filled this out during the call. What are the detailed action steps before our next call and the thoughts you need to practice on purpose. And then how will you feel once you've accomplished these things. Okay, so let me explain what this is very I say strike strategy is not important. This is actually very strategic. However, it's a beautiful balance of both. Okay I once was on a training call and afterwards someone was like I just wanted her to give me strategy and I was like that's so interesting because if that's your thought you're probably over there like she didn't give me strategy, so that makes her feel frustrated. Which then makes her think that she can't work her business or she can't be successful because somebody didn't give her strategy or her thought may have been well she didn't help me but it's not just she. Her thought probably is nobody can help me and when she thinks nobody can help me or she's thinking I can't even help myself. Nobody can help me. It's this feeling of hopelessness. It's this feeling of anger. It's this feeling of frustration and when she continues to believe nobody can help me. She can't help me nobody can help me, and then it just keeps creating “nobody can help me” and this stuckness, stuckness, stuckness. Isn't that fascinating? I go into every training I ever attend thinking I'm going to get out of this exactly what I need. I am going to get out of this training exactly what I need today and that. Opens me up I can learn anything I can learn something from a beginner. I can learn something from someone who's not in my profession I can learn something from anybody because everything in life is a lesson ,and when I think I I am going to get out of this exactly what I need the feelings that creates for me is anticipation excitement. Importance because I'm going to get out of this exactly what I need and you know what happens, then I end up getting out of this exactly what I need and I go put into practice something that I was open to allowing to learn that should be an entire podcast episode all itself. Okay, so here's why I ask these specific questions what book are you currently reading? I am actually going to change this before I give this to you guys because I did this last couple times and they would like just tell me a book they were reading at church or just like this fiction book and I was like I meant what book are you reading in line with your profession like what sales book are you reading what network marketing book are are you reading what leadership book are you reading? And something in line with your occupation. I I ask them this. I don't ask them are you reading a book circle yes or no. No, no, no, no I say what book are you reading because leaders are readers foundationally leaders are readers. If they're not reading a book before they fill this format. They'll go pick up a book, read one page and come back and tell me they're currently reading such and such book. Okay I want to rise them up. Empower them to do the and the activities that will get them the the results that need so. I'm not asking them yes or no questions. Please stop asking your people yes or no questions. Ask them open ended questions. Rise them up to be a leader. A literally tangible example in my network marketing business is I don't say like oh Are you signed up to go to our company convention? I don't say that because that's a yes or no question. I say who’s coming?I don't even ask if they're coming I say “Who do you have from your team that's coming with you to convention?” That's how I ask the question because I'm already assuming that they're signed up because they're they're leader in the business. They should absolutely be going but they should not only just be going. They should be rising up other people on their team to go. That's a word for somebody. Okay, next question what is your biggest strength as a leader I want them to focus on their strengths. I want to know how them to be aware of and know why they're good at this. What makes them unique? What makes them good because again they may be looking at me or someone else and thinking well I'm not like I'm not good at this and this and this like she is or I'm not good in this area. I think they have this preconceived notion that you have to be successful or you have to be strong in certain things in order to be. No I want them to know and and I want to speak life into the things that they are good at. I think that's very important for you as a leader for you as you're coaching somebody else. You definitely want to praise them. You definitely want to recognize the ways that they are unique in their strengths. Okay, next what are your daily, weekly, monthly activities in your business. So I want them to be able to writing that out because people say all the time. Oh I work my business so much and I'm always like “Oh really? Okay, okay, so what exactly and when exactly are you working your business? That's another one of the questions you knowwhat how many hours a week day in a week are you working your business? I want them to actually evaluate it because you know people are like I drink so much water and I'm like oh really like how much you like oh two glasses. It's so much more fascinating so you get clearer on what that actually yes so get clearer clearer on what that. Actually means and this really is for them for them to see and then you can you can offer some it'll it'll provide you some insight to ask some questions on if they like have they work 1 hour a week and their goal is to like reach the top of the company in a year you can ask some because of the fact you said you wanted to be at the top of the company in a year do you think these activities will be enough to get you there. Okay, ask them the question put it back on to them I'm going to I'm getting and we talked about what are you avoiding or resisting. It's the money shot like if they will be still for a moment. To actually tell you what they're avoiding or resisting. It's almost always the reason their business isn't growing so I want to get to the root of it like let's get to the real reason your business is not growing one time I had a girl she and took her child out to like a mother's Stayout program. It was like 4 hours and she got she had she was kid free for 4 hours she went to the coffee shop and worked her business and she was like Jessica I had four uninterrupted hours to work my business and I got so much done! She said but I ran out of time before I was able to make some new reach outs for my business just left inside. Um. Because I was like what did you do for 4 hours? Isn't that funny like her brain was like oh I worked so hard and she filled 4 hours worth of things to do but she wasn't doing the 1 thing that would actually move the needle in her business. Actually grow her business in the present and in the future. So, so interesting. We really also have to evaluate and prioritize the things that need to be done during non work hours. Okay so what is your work routine like I want to hear are they filling in the nooks and crannies are they putting in specific work hours and separating those we would have some discussions about that. Um, what is your goal and why have you not already reached your goal? Yes, okay, so you not being like well here's why I think you haven't reached your goal. No ask them why they think they haven't reached their goal. This is one of the most valuable things you can do as a leader is pause yourself and yeah, there wasn't something wrong in the the podcast recording right? then I just paused for like literally only 5 seconds there is so much power in the pause because it's uncomfortable when you pause so you as a leader have to be able. And willing to feel the feeling of uncomfortable and let it be paused for a while. Let it be silent for a while. Also pro tip don't ever let them say I don't know I don't like if if in the question, why have they not I reachached their goal and they say I don't know why I haven't reached my goal already. Here is your opportunity to say. Okay, if you were to take a guess. Why do you Why do you think keep coming back to it. Don't let them say I don't know. Don't let that be the end all ok so keep being like ok huh like if you were just to take a guess. Why do you think you haven't reached your goal yet. This is so important so important do not answer this question for them. You can you can add some things to it after they answer the question but you would be doing them a tremendous disservice I am so about do not just give a man a fish teach a man. Fish teach them. How give them the feelings wheel like literally you can get the feelings without while you're doing a coaching call like what actually is the feeling that you're avoiding or resisting what is going on deeper. Why are you not already actual talk about some breakthroughs. You'll get some if you'll shut up and ask more questions! Okay, and then a goals exercise. This was really this was really important but this also I learned something new this last round which I'm going to tweak this before I give it to you? Okay, so people were giving me their goal again. This is network I was. Specifically this past week I was coaching people in their network marketing business I coach people in all professions. But for this one they were telling me where they wanted to be in a year six months three months and one month but they weren't they weren't aware of what they even needed to reach that one month goal. So some people were saying they wanted to hit a specific rank this month and when I I tried to ask on this before the call because I didn't want to waste time with this on the call I was like okay you said you wanted to be senior gold ruby whatever by the end of this month how many people do you need to add to your organization in order for you to hit that goal this month and it was so interesting. How many people did not know that number. So I made sure they knew how to do that math before I got on a coaching call with them because we got lots of other things to talk about in the coaching.I don't have time to figure out basic math with them. So this also helps them learn how their compensation plan works or help if you're in a sales industry help them make sure they know how. To reach the goal that they want to reach don't just let them say okay, here's my goal isn't that fun I hope I get it. No they need to know specifically what it will take for for them to reach that goal. You cannot win the game if you do not know the rules so make sure that is incredibly clear for them they can work with numbers. They can't work with oh help a catch it I have no idea how many people I need to even get it now help them to know what that means so then at the end of the coaching call have a detailed action steps for them to take just a couple of steps so they can feel like they are winning. They are going in the right direction but also a very specific thought for them to practice on purpose which will create the feelings that they long to feel in their business. Okay, so if they're in this. They're in a shame season or a fear season or whatever help them have an anchor thought that makes them feel the feelings of empowered or powerful or proud or hopeful or confident like cling to that practice that you you and your body have been on default. For your whole life your mind if when we do not take our thoughts captive. They're just defaulting to something that we don't like and that's what they've done for years and years and years and years and years to so to retrain your thoughts. You're going to have to specifically think them on purpose with intention on repeat. So not only at the top of my calendar I teach this in my mentorship. We write our twelve week breakthrough girls at the top of our calendar every day but we also are writing the thought that we are thinking on purpose the on repeat we are writing it every day we are putting it at the top of our calendar. The top of our mind. So many people. A whole other call and goals that I have a whole nother lesson inside my mentorship that is the the most intrinsic detailed emotional yet strategic way for you to actually accomplish goals within twelve weeks um and being aware of the feelings you need to create in order to to accomplish that goal, but also the thought that you were going to think on purpose is so powerful. Okay, so I know that this is going to be helpful for you and your business no matter what your business is for you and your own life to help you evaluate something you can do this coach and call on yourself. Okay and you could probably have a lot of breakthrough, right? Then and there but I just when I was doing those coaching calls today literally and I did about 6 of them this week. The most powerful thing that happened in every single one of those coaching calls was the question. What are you avoiding or resisting and also the question. Why have you not reached your goal already because that allows them the the space to be honest with their set themselves and we can work with truth the truth is what sets people free not pretending or avoiding or resisting or acting like that is not under an underlying reason of why that's there the truth will set you free. And it takes bravery and honesty and vulnerability and there was ah there was often tears in talking about that that question but that is where the healing happens that is where you can create a different future from your past. So their printout will be in the show notes. So Excited and empowering. This is just like a baby taste within our mentorship. I really do this in real life as I coach people and there's such transformation in coaching and what is unfortunate is so many people are too scared to get coaching or they aren't willing to feel the feeling of like, they're just like oh that feels uncomfortable. But if they would allow themselves to feel the feeling of possibly feeling embarrassed for getting something coached on something that they are they They don't feel strong in but it would make them feel weak or it would make them feel and less than or not good enough or just. Yeah, basically they don't feel strong in that area that is what we can work with that level of vulnerability that level of honest honesty that level of truth is probably what has kept you stuck so blessings to you guys blessings to your breakthrough. Can't wait to visit with you guys next week.

91| I get it, I NEVER want to feel insecure, rejected, embarrassed or insignificant either. The Feelings Wheel is about to become your best friend.

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Hello welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose Podcast. I am Jessica Hefley and today we're diving into one of my favorite tools. That is the foundation inside of How To Get Off The Hot Mess Express which comes for free with the mentorship. This is just a recorded pre-recorded mini-course that teaches you these things. It's for free when you join the mentorship but with the feelings. We're getting in touch with the feelings- I don't know why I'm saying. That's so weird right now. I am very excited about this because most high achievers miss this and this is why they keep experiencing burnout. They keep their anxiety is so high. They may be achieving in their business or in some area of their life but the other areas feel unfulfilled or feel low or feel lacking and they just don't feel like they have wholeness in all areas of their life, and we all know that when one area of your life improves. It helps improve the other areas as well. So I want to help you be a whole-hearted leader. A leader who genuinely loves what they do who operates for a place of purpose who knows who they are because they will prosper and prosper other people in the making. Okay so get out the little feelings wheel we're going to I'm actually going to give you this one part of the welcome packet that comes with How To Get Off The Hot Mess Express mini-course but just the feelings wheel. Okay I want you to be looking at that I ah here I've um, pulled it up on my YouTube video. It's got all these different feelings and about trust me I'm good. This is all going to make sense in just moment. Mad, scared, joyful, powerful, peaceful, sad and actually you know 20 more emotions from each of those that spread out that are more detailed why we're talking about this in the first place. So over and over and over again I hear people say I coach people in their businesses right? I post in my network marketing business, I post about the income. I post about the business. There's things that I have done to actively work my business that have got me to the top of it and then I'll coach some people and they'll say well that just feels inauthentic to me or I'll you know I'll challenge them to do something and they'll be like that feels inauthentic. I want to be authentic in how I work my business or how I post about my business or how I display myself to the world and I'm here to challenge you on that which is so interesting for you to notice. Okay, let's go through inauthentic. What does that mean. What does that actually feel like where are you feeling inauthentic in your body because when I look at this little feelings wheel. So fascinating- the scared section of the wheel. Ah, most people feel they're I'm curious if they're confusing inauthentic with fear with being scared those are very similar feelings sensations and the body they can be. They're commonly missed diagnosed. It's not the right word but people are saying I don't want to be inauthentic when really, what's probably going on beneath. There are some. Other but more specific feelings which would make sense why you would avoid it like the plague but I'm going to help you process those today on this episode so you no longer avoid things like the plague because leaders are not avoiders to help you actually process this so you can move forward to help you actually identify what's going on. And your thoughts and your heart and your mind and in your body so that you can grow your business so that you can prosper so you can have prosperity with purpose. There's 4 that I want to evaluate or talk about today that may be similar to inauthentic but what probably what possibly it could be is insecure number 1 insecure so interesting. Do you notice that the feelings of insecurity could easily be mistaken with I don't want to be inauthentic. What does insecurity feel like for you? Where is that is that in your stomach? Do you get that like pit in your stomach of like, I don't feel confident in this, I feel scared, I feel like I am an imposter, I feel definitely not bold, not confident that this feels new. This feels uncomfortable this feels like I don't want to do that. Interesting. 1 of the things I teach people is that they are able to feel every feeling and not die. Did you die? Okay so insecure I want you to notice if you are actually feeling the feeling of insecurity and where is that in your body take a couple moments and acknowledge that you're feeling insecure in that way. Don't discredit it or discount it or ignore it. Acknowledge that you're feeling that way and then when you fully acknowledge it then you have a choice you have agency over that you can choose to stay in that feeling. It can be like oh okay, I'm feeling a little insecure about this. But I am able to I can make powerful decisions so my life and business can move forward and then choose in bravery to move forward to make that post to start start that podcast to talk about the business to do that reach out to do that marketing. Okay, you have a choice. You always have a choice but when you are unaware and you're just like oh that doesn't feel and that feels inauthentic I'm going to call ah b s and say well let's explore that because that might be something else. Okay inauthentic is like the noble title to put up. I don't want it to be inauthentic. I am challenging you. To look a little deeper because if you keep staying in this I don't want to feel that feeling then you ain't going to be able to move forward. I mean, internet we bless you in the name of Jesus it keeps pausing so we're gonna keep moving forward. Number 2 rejected is also one of those deeper feelings. That is I miss or confused with being scared or being fearful or being in the inauthentic so rejected. Oh I don't want to feel rejected what does rejected feel like to you does it feel like in your head It feels heavy. It feels. Does it feel in your chest like I don't want to feel rejected and and does it just notice is a possibility that you're feeling rejected instead of inauthentic or fear. Number 3 embarrassed. Where do you feel embarrassed in your body? Literally take a moment when's the last time you truly felt embarrassed where did you feel that in your physical body? What part of your body when you when you're like I'm embarrassed where is that? Does your face maybe turn red and hot? Where does it have a temperature? Does it have a color? Does it have a size? What does embarrassed feel like in your body? Journal that, journal everything that comes up with embarrassed. And then you get to choose to move forward. You get to you have the beautiful gift of acknowledging that you're actually feeling embarrassed. That's actually what's going on and then you get to decide to move your life and make powerful decisions to move your life in your business forward. The fourth insignificant. What if you're actually feeling insignificant? What if you actually make that post and nobody likes it or not very many people comment on it? That might make you feel embarrassed like before or insignificant. What's insignificant? It's different for every person. There's no right or wrong answer. That maybe in your throat. Do you feel like your voice doesn't matter.? Do you feel like what you have to sit people don't care about what you have to say so that makes you feel insignificant which is an uncomfortable feeling. But you don't want to feel that make you make perfect perfect sense. Of course you don't want to do things that are going to make you feel insignificant because that is it could be a very triggering thing of something that's happened in your past however that is your past that may have triggered you. In your past. But now you have the tools and the ability to be in the present with the feeling of insignificant you have a loving father who speaks the truth over your identity that you are incredibly significant. No matter. What. Anybody else says no matter how many likes comments email sign-ins orders. You get the the thought ah of that you are insignificant is a lie and you get to choose if you're going to partner with the truth or you're going to partner with a lie so isn't this fascinating. Just simply deciphering when someone's like I don't want to post about income because I don't want to be inauthentic girl. We're going to challenge you on what is actually happening there behind the layers and then we're going to challenge you to do it in spite of those feelings. I have always taught I have knowledge when I am scared of something that means I have to do it I have I just I may I make myself do it because I am oh self-aware enough to notice. Really don't want to do this. This is going to make me feel uncomfortable. I actually feel scared right now I will take a moment I will feel it in my body I will journal about it and then I know that leaders go first I know that leaders lead the way I know that leaders are pioneers. Let's take that back and say all those things for you I know that you are a pioneer. I Know that you go first I know that you steer the ship I know that you are willing to feel every single feeling on this feelings wheel process that and still choose to move forward because we do not allow these things to stop Us. We did not allow these things to stop us in our tracks we did not allow these things to keep us for more prosperity with purpose if you listen to my money five part money Mindset series that are recorded right? but are the episodes right before this one please check those out because those will radically change how you view yourself, how you view money, but this is bigger than money. It's how you view your every area of your life. This expansiveness, this goodness of God like we have too bottled these things up. We have missed. We have misguided thoughts that are actually selfish about like I don't want to do that. I have enough money. I know I'll mismanage it. I I have enough. Like all of those things are so self-obsessed when we are called to steward and multiply we are called to feed the poor we are called to bring our gifts forth. So here's your homework for today. Are you up for a challenge? Because I like to work with people who are up for a challenge. And prosperity in my mentorship. We challenge each other every week because that's how you make someone better is challenged and that's why I am there to coach them inside of the mentorship because what you're doing isn't working or what you do you're doing has gotten you this far. And that's the whole point of a coach to help you bring help bring up some blind spots for you. They're called blind spots because you don't see them you're blind to them so it's so accelerating your growth to have someone to be able to notice those to ask you the curious questions to help you process. And help you move forward on your own. So here's the feelings. Well this is so fascinating. You can see all the different want here. We go that this next week. Try this for one week well first of all, get How To Get Off The Hot Mess Express and this explains it in way more detail. It's $97 it's prerecorded every single person needs this or jump into the mentorship because this is all provided inside the mentorship for free. You take the feelings wheel for one week I want you 3 times a day. It could be right when you wake up around lunchtime or at night or life's crazy just 3 times a day I want you to pick up the feelings wheel. And I want you to actually be able to identify what you are feeling in that moment and it may be more than one and I just simply want you to write it down and help yourself journal about it process about it because here's the thing most of us are here's the key ones or this is not an exhaustive list. It also can be feelings that are not on this list. But. Kind of there's kind of 6 powerful ones like you're either mad or sad or feeling peaceful and powerful. There's good feelings too powerful or joyful or scared but most people like me before learning this work. You know like because there's like over a hundred feelings on this wheel and I'm like there's a hundred feeling like I thought there was 3 angry sad and happy. Like and my life was pretty surface level because and have the depth of being able to acknowledge these and process these and for me for my personality who tends to get angry about out things you know I get that makes me so angry. It was so easy just to be angry or just to be mad. It took more work to look further than what mad was look deeper so really behind the mad I probably sometimes I was feeling hurt or I was feeling frustrated or I was feeling skeptical or critical or hateful or rage or embarrassed like there was something below the anchor or it's so easy for us to be like well I'm so sad or I'm depressed like really let's what actually is going on. What's a little bit deeper than that are you feeling lonely are you feeling bored? Are you feeling guilty? Are you feeling stupid? Are you feeling inadequate? Are you feeling inferior? Or are you feeling apathetic? Get a little bit deeper, because it's so easy to say you're sad or it's easy to say you're mad or it's easy to say I'm scared or I'm not doing that instead explore a little deeper to find some freedom that's what I'm here for to help be a conduit to break these things off to help you find some freedom to live a wholehearted life. So there you go pretty simple just look at just start notice. So many people are so out of touch with their body like I will ask them coaching questions. It's so fascinating I'm like okay well how does that make you feel and then they'll go and they'll talk for 5 minutes about all their thoughts I'm like. Let's go back to it. Those are all thoughts but how are those thoughts making you feel in your physical body god made our bodies. This is not like woooo weird stuff like this is how god made us so we've got to get back to the body. Get. Back to what we're actually feeling and then we will have with more understanding about why we have been acting certain certain ways or avoiding certain things avoiding certain conversations or avoiding doing things in our business avoiding moving forward. We're upper level living in us limiting ourselves that the list goes on but this is an excellent self-awarenessreness, self- empowerment tool that will give you agency and specific specificity on what’s really going on so 3 times a day check in with the Wheel notice where and it could be more than one at you know every time you check in it give me 1 on top. 1 time. From 1 uncomfortable conversation I had with somebody, processed it and I had 11 different emotions that I was feeling in my body. It was like once I process one it was like oh I'm embarrassed and then like oh wait. No I'm angry. Oh did I do something wrong. It was this beautiful thing and then after I process it I was. It felt so much lighter it wasn't triggering me. It wasn't triggering the anger or triggering the sadness or triggering the fear. It was like oh wait. No this is actually what's going on huh as not a big of his deal as big of a deal as I thought and I am a person of purpose who lives on purpose. So I want to move forward. So we started all of this from the original thought of when people were saying I don't want to be an authentic. Super interesting. I want you go back and to explore those 4 areas could you instead actually be feeling insecure or not wanting to feel rejected embarrassed or insignificant. Super. Super powerful. That's I'm here for I'm here to help you have the breakthroughs y'all we'll see you next time.

90| Expansiveness; How Not Conforming To The World Pays Off.

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Welcome back to the Prosperity with Purpose podcast, I'm Jessica Hefley, and I think we could go on and and on with the Money Mindset series forever. But we're going to leave it part 5 from last week and we're going to go move forward from now on. This will be a little bit about money. So many other episodes in the future because this is Prosperity with Purpose. But today let's talk about expansiveness. Let's talk about some of the things we went through in the last 5 episodes. Go check those out. Start with episode one. I believe it's actual episode like 85 but episode 1 in the Money Mindset period. But it is episode 85. Okay, check that out but put it in the show notes where you can get that started. The second part ,the second one of the series talked about who I don't want to give it away, I want you to go listen to it. Okay I'll give away because I have to help you understand what the context of episode is, so I had you go back and listen to it. It's very powerful. I had y'all put your dream big dream goals like income yearly goals like a big stretch goal and I had you scratch it out and double it and I want to talk about that again for a second because there's something that that does to us if we allow. It's called expansiveness is starting to. Allow the possibility of something bigger than you had imagined before is starting to allow that thought to creep in to think about it to not let it be like so sticker shock. The first time you ever see it but start thinking about hey that actually could be possible for me that amount of income actually could be a really big blessing to those that I love and could help make the world. A better place. Okay, so expansiveness and this whole concept of expansiveness led me to thinking differently again which usually always takes us back to right thinking. Differently So I've been going on daily walk and we have this. We're not in a neighborhood. We're on a bunch of acreage but we're close to a neighborhood So go walk in the neighborhood and there's this really big Hill. Really big long Hill I like to consider call it. My Booty Gains Hill. Watching walking it every day I'm like yeah I'm gonna get some booty gains. That's how it just makes me excited Anyways i' been going every day. It's amazing. What yeah, what will happen in your life when you decide to have to decide ahead of time that you'll do something Anyways, the other day I was like I'm just gonna meditate on this one verse over and over and over in my mind Romans twelve. To do not be conformed to the pattern of the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Okay, so I go on a walk and I'm just thinking about it that Verse I'm saying it out loud I'm allowing mine to think on it and ponder on it even and ah the passion translation I Love how it is worded in there. Says stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you but be inwardly transformed by the holy spirit through a total reformation of how you think renewed renewing your mind completely changed by how you think so I'm going to my walk and I'm just thinking about the scriptures over and over and over again and it's reminding me again that we think differently as followers of Christ. We think differently as leaders we think differently than other people, and so it's just this expansiveness theme and thinking differently calling myself higher. Calling other people higher, call it not just calling myself I've been since I've been in this expansive mode these last couple of weeks I have been calling my team hire I have been calling my friends hire I have been It's like what this is this is the power of growth. This is the power of you joining the prosperity of purpose mentorship because when you work on you. Your thoughts your processes your emotions how you show up how you how you steward your time and your money and your resources how you grow your business like that gives you authority to set other people free in that area is this so interesting. Some people ask me today like my budget on what I spend. On like reinvesting back into my team or gifts or prizes or things like that for my network marketing team and I was like my biggest chunk is investing in me and that's not selfish and I said if you want to 10 x your business. The biggest amount of money you should spend is should be on your own coaching because you will then. Have the agency and authority in those areas to help your team I believe that has been 10 fold sent back to me because of how I have had I have made this a priority to grow to stretch to be uncomfortable to learn to get coaching to ask the uncomfortable questions to put things into play to be able to be uncomfortable, to be able to be embarrassed and asking things that I don't want to ask all of those things have provided breakthroughs that in turn I can now have other people on my team have breakthroughs. It is the best investment. So anyways, thinking differently if we have to think differently, who is challenging you to think differently? How are you daily and weekly investing in thinking differently? So anyway, so my original really big scary goal was $10,000,000 a year. I'm like, “Oh my goodness that just seems so big and hard!”, just different from what just anyways so when I had to cross that out because I do but I do what I tell y'all to do it then became $20,000,000 and it's been really interesting to these last couple weeks allow my brain to be like $20,000,000 so a person who earns $20,000,000 a year. How do they show up? Who and what kind of person is that? What kind of person do they hire on their team to help them? How do they think? How do they show up. How do they give, and it's been really fun to allow your brain to start this, so I'm excited about you guys as you have started to double that and started to just enjoy the possibility of that enjoy expanding your mind around that amount because your body won't go where your mind hasn't already been so even like literally journaling about it like having fun with it all the things that you're going to do with it anyways. So and just focusing on expansiveness and focusing on gratitude the other day. Okay, so recently got a text from a very high up person at our headquarters for the network marketing company that work with Plexus. Anyways, it wasn't any special to you but how she worded it sparked expansiveness in me. She just had mentioned some research and some things that they were going to bring to us at convention and how a legacy leader like me would be really interested in learning about this. What are you really interested in growing this way, and I could have just been like yeah didda du but when she it was like when she called me a Legacy Minded Leader. It was like oh okay, legacy minded leaders make $20,000,000 a year. Legacy Minded Leaders are expansive. Expansive legacy minded leaders think differently than other leaders. It like took me to another level higher of the possibilities and took me another level higher in my identity. So when I was thinking that I'm just a leader you know or top leader I don't know. Oh and she probably doesn't even know this. I’ll tell her that but when she said it legacy minded leader it just it rose me up I'm like I want to be that I want to be a person who learns about this I want to be a person who is the legacy minded leader because that's bigger than just a regular leader that is leaving a legacy. I just found that super interesting the timing of all that of you know that expansiveness that next level of thinking I had just went on a walk. It might have even been that day when I was really, really thinking over and over again. “Do not conform to the pattern in this world. Be transformed by the renewing of your mind” have you ever done that if you've like really chewed on that particular verse? “Do not be conformed to the pattern of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Romans 12:2 fun fact in our new house we built a house last year have we have a powder bathroom in the hallway, and I have wallpaper that is all the book of Romans written on wallpaper. I love it in there. It's like my moody bathroom. I've got one wall that's got the Romans all over, but it's behind the mirror I've got like a pretty mirror and then the rest of the wall is like a dark, pretty moody color. But anyway. Okay, so do not be transformed do be not be conformed by the pattern of this world but be transformer renew renewing of your mind I'm going to read it again in the passion translation stop imitating the ideals and opinions of the culture around you. But be inwardly transformed by the holy spirit through a total reformation of how you think how you think it is that important when I talk about it over and over and over again is because it is that important. When you get the $97 “How To Get Off The Hot Mess Express” mini course which every single one of you needs because it is that important it is the layered foundation of what I teach inside of my mentorship teaching you how to take your thoughts captive, teaching you how to understand. Thoughts create feelings which are creating actions or inactions. It is so incredibly powerful and speaking of stop imitating the world and the opinions of the culture around you be okay, y'all this also happened this week. The Lord just lines all these things out that are happening in my own personal life and then I come and talk to you about him on podcasts see what I mean that's what I'm talking. When you get coaching when you are aware of all these things you can then go and teach your people train your people about how the lord is downloading things in your life as you are open to the expansiveness of it anyways. Okay, y'all. Gonna talk about it for a second not because I want to get it give this person any more publicity but this was an example that came to my mind. Okay, so a certain someone who is not a country music. Singer has a big country music singer top hit right now I have avoided. Okay, when that first came out. It's. Beyonce and so the texas hold him zone. Okay, hear me out when the I have I got lots of thoughts and feelings around her but they're not conspiracy theory thoughts and feelings. It would be wise of you to be careful about that song and be careful about her I'm saying it.

She literally says she has an alter ego that something possesses her body and she becomes someone else. Yeah, that's demonic. Sorry I'm laughing because I'm uncomfortable, I feel uncomfortable but you got to be careful.So here's the day when it first came out I went and looked up the lyrics because I'm always like I want to make sure like what is she saying in this like what? What? This is very interesting that she's coming over into the very conservative country music market isn't it anyways. So I went and looked up the lyrics I'm like these don't even make no sense. This isn't what is a song even about. Yeah, it's got a catchy tune. But this doesn't even sense. So I refuse to put it in any of my reels y'all but the other day was just innocently scrolling and so it was in somebody else's reel that I follow and then I went to go take a shower. And I could not stop singing the song and I kept catching myself and I was like, why am I singing the song? Why is it so catchy? And then I started to think what are the other songs in my life that are like popular, popular songs and they're so catchy and you can't stop singing them and then get in your head I'm like y'all go look her and Taylor Swift are like best friends forever. And Taylor Swift is not even hiding it. She literally says she's a witch she literally says she makes songs for witches. We got to be aware of these things whether you like it or not there. It is there. It is. And so in light of that when I was like could not stop singing that song I was like no no no and then I got out to shower and I'm like I have to make a or later on that day I was listening to some sort of worship music and I was noticing a theme around some of them around gratitude I'm like I have to get a playlist out to my listeners. Some worship music on repeat that is about gratitude, and so I'm going to put the playlist down in the show notes for you guys because it's just important for us to renew our mind. It's important for us to catch ourselves on what we do have on repeat repeat repeat repeat and is that the truth. Is that the truth over you is that going to help you in your walk and help you in your journey and propel you forward or just like stall you on repeat singing some stupid song. They don't even make no sense. Okay, so that's what I got for today. So listen to that playlist work on your own awareness and expansiveness around that like a big, huge scary goal of the income and see what the lord does with that see what ideas start spreading like this week for example in Prosperity with Purpose Mentorship I was teaching on hiring, delegating and resting. Most people aren't thinking about hiring and and delegating at a next level. If they want to if they plan to increase their income or even keep their own income they have now. But to delegate and hire is something most people avoid but man when you really grasp that and the reason why and how that. Stimulates the economy and provides a good job for somebody else, but it really also helps you operate in your zone of genius doing the things that only you can do doing the things that god has gifted you with to steward and multiply and letting somebody else take care of all the other things. So. Can't wait to see y'all next week thanks Arere here and don't forget to get and be in the prosperity purpose Facebook group. We've got some fun fun, fun stuff going along in there and thank you! Thank you! Thank you for sharing the podcast. It's an honor. You guys are the best see ya.

89| Money Mindset Series #5: Are you being selfish? Prosperity is about blessing, Not possessing.

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Welcome back to the Prosperity with Purpose Podcast. I'm Jessica Hefley, and this Money Series why don't we go one more week? Why don't we? We can call it part 5. You can call it “Jessica was going to talk about this anyways”, an extension to the whole concept around money. Today we're going to talk about lies you believe you've been thinking that are selfish about money. Make sure you're in the Prosperity with Purpose Facebook group each week! We're doing monthly giveaways in March for y'all who are sharing and passing this word along and helping set others free and helping your teams and your friends and your family have breakthrough in this area, so they can have more prosperity with purpose.

Let's hop to it! 6 lies about money that are keeping you from prosperity. Yep, your thoughts about money are actually selfish and we're going to cover 6 of them. Are you read? Because real prosperity is defined by how much we give away not by how much we are keeping for ourselves. We about to break, I feel like I have a breaker. Ah, what do you want to even call it? I have the ability to help people break out of these glass ceilings out of these old ways of thinking that is just the Lord working through me, but there are ways that have kept you thinking that money is selfish that are keeping you from making as much as you possibly can because more money in the hands of good people is going to change the world.

Prosperity is not selfish.

Prosperity is not about you. The motivation for prosperity is about desiring to have the resources to bless others and accomplish what God has called you to to do. Prosperity is about blessing not possessing, so go to www.jessicahefley.com/money. I've got a printout for you guys that is all scripture around money to help you renew your mind. Biblically I'm not making this stuff up. I'm not being hokey. I'm not trying to make you believe something that it's not Biblically based. Renew your mind repeat, repeat, repeat. Get this printout print it out, read it daily. Look it up in your Bible see it all of these scriptures around money. I'm going to quote some of them for you in just a minute but lie number 1 about around the concept of your thoughts about money are actually selfish I have enough have you ever have you ever thought that thought about money? I have enough, I mean I. Ah so many people join my network marketing company and they get caught in this like oh I have enough I mean my bills are paid I'm so grateful. My family is taken care of. Selfish - I'm calling you out because you know what the only people that you are thinking about is you. Good for you. Your bills are paid for, but there are other people who need your help- the poorest way to help the poor is to be poor. So when your thought is “I have enough”, that is the focus of that is I,I,I,I. Prosperity is about blessing not possessing. If you have the talents, gifts, and ability, if you are able to steward what the Lord has entrusted you to multiply, then you'll never have enough because enough is not just for you. It's for others. Okay so I have enough and want you to ask yourself if you're ever thinking that thought or living into that thought of oh I have enough money. We notice that that actually is a selfish way to think. Number 2 “It's not that important, money's not that important.” Okay, you ever caught that one I've made a bunch of reels about all these money topics. It's not that important. Love is really what's important or you know family is really what's important I ain't saying the Bible and people ain’t saying you have to choose 1 or the other why can't both be important. Why do you have to have this hierarchy of which they are important if you think that money is not important I bet you don't have very much of it. Because people who have a lot of money and are using that to bless the world and using that to bless others. They know it's important. Money is important. Money funds. everything the bad and the good. I was just watching The Chosen again. The new episodes were out in the theater and I was just reminded that Jesus's ministry was funded by wealthy people. There was this lady who keeps sending them gifts of extravagant silks and coins and different things that can go and sell in the market and get a lot of money for it. Okay, so if that was just “I have enough.” “Money's not that important.” No, she absolutely understands that money is important. She understands how to steward it. She understands how to multiply it and because of that she is able to fund Jesus's ministry fund other things with the extra with the money. Money is not bad. Can I scream it from the mountaintops? Money is not bad! Money is not bad! Money is not bad and money's not bad! Okay so number 2 was “It's not important.” It is important. Okay number 3 your thoughts around money that are actually selfish number 3 is “I don't need it, I don't need it.” I mean kind of goes in with the first one I don't need it. The I focus where we get back thinking of like I don't need anything else I don't need so like can we switch that focus offs off of eye and put it on someone someone or something else god has put. A burden on your heart for something that your life living out your life is the answer to that prayer oftentimes we're praying like Lord would you help this person or would you help this ministry or would you fund this or this people or in real big need Lord provide for that. What if we start thinking about those up those prayers, those opportunities as ways for you to be the answer to that prayer for the burden that is on your heart for you. To fulfill that with the blessing and the prosperity that flows through your life to answer that prayer. Interesting way to think about it. Didn't you think number four “I'll mismanage it.” This is another one of your thoughts around money that are actually selfish. If you continue to think well if I get any more money I'll mismanage it. I had a whole coaching session on this couple years ago. This was such an eye-opener to me. This was one of my thoughts I kept thinking. Oh you know we haven't note we have enough it was using all of these selfish things that I'm teaching you not to think. I was thinking? Oh you know we have enough we have more than enough we have more than enough we'd ever dream that we would ever have so and and I'm just scared like I don't know how to invest I'm not real savvy in that area. I don't, and she helped me see what in the world. What if you can make more money and figure it out as you go right. Like what if that's the thought instead of I'll mismanage money what if instead we switch that for the thought of I can make more money and figure out it figure it out as I go because I was repelling I was in a stage where I'd made the same amount of income for years I was repelling more income because of some of my thoughts like oh I have enough priority have more than other people or I'll just miss Me. We'll just Miss We We don't know how to invest very smart like those were all thoughts that were repelling more prosperity to flow through our life to be able to help other people with it. If you don't know what to do with it, give it away. If you have some sort of secret cap in your mind of that's this is X amount of money that I want to make in 0 more great than keep that amount of money and give everything else away. Don't let that be an excuse to not make more to not have more prosperity flow through your life. This very podcast is called Prosperity with Purpose. Okay, when you are living with purpose. It is so bit much bigger than you. It is so much more than you So All these I I have enough. It's not that important I don't need it I'll mismanage it. Those are all eyes those are putting the selfish focus on you instead of the bigger picture. Okay number 5 I don't deserve it. So. Interesting. What makes someone deserve or not deserve it or what makes someone that you would gift the money or the income to deserving or not deserving who would you be without the thought of I don't deserve it. If you go back to episode 1 of the Money Mindset series all around money is neutral. The neutrality around money. It doesn't mean anything your worth doesn't come from an amount of money that you have or make or amount of money that you don't have or make it. It doesn't mean anything you get to you get to choose what you make money mean. And you thinking I don't deserve it unfortunately is blocking off and capping off an an no sealing amount of money flowing through you to help other people because you think that you don't deserve it. So. Interesting, right? Such a selfish way to view money such a selfish way to view prosperity and then number 6 number 6 thoughts around money that are actually selfish is god wants me to be poor or it's more nobler. To be poor who taught you that who taught you that I used to think that this was a lie that I used to believe I think oh god can only teach you about character or teach you hard lessons when you have 0 money and have to depend on him. There may be seasons for that. But that is boxing god in god. Can teach you lessons when you're a multibillionaire and he can teach you lessons when you have $5 okay, that has nothing to do with how god can talk to you how god can change you how god can work through you what layers of of selfish you're going to have to work through the amount of money, does not mean that. What matters? What's so important is doing all of this in partnership with God because apart from me, you can do nothing? Okay, but for you to think you're more nobler because you're poorer that I'm going to call that out as pride because again, you're not better than me because you have less money than me. I am not better than you because I have more money than you. Because remember money doesn't mean anything. It is neutral. You could decide what you make it means but it can fund those things that you have been dreaming to fund. It can buy somebody a house. It can buy someone who depends on who do. Devotes their life to ministry and doesn't even have a working car to buy them a car. It can scholarship people to special retreats. It can pay for adoptions. How do I know those things because we've done all of those things from the flow of prosperity through us to other people we have been able to radically bless and let's stop judging. Radically bless you paying for someone's coffee is just the same as us buying somebody a house to live in. Stop there's no hierarchy or lowerarchy - it is all about having things flow through you to bless others. Okay, but you might as well make more you might. Make a ridiculously amount of more money to be able to do more of those things if you're watching me on Youtube I am like flailing my arms getting a little hot on this. Okay, so go to Wwwwdotjesica heffley.com/moneyto get these scriptures. Okay, because we want to have prosperity with purpose. We did Dave Ramsey years and years ago. I love Dave Ramsey, my husband hates it I will love it. I was such a nerd. The concepts of it all. But I remember we actually went through the video series at church. And you know his concept of living is live like no one else so you can give like no one else and I will never forget I think it was like week 10 or 12 or whatever it was the last week. It was such a well done video like they had that they showed this video and had like emotional music and it had actors playing out the story but it was this story of how a family at church wanted to adopt and because another family had lived like no one else had been good. Stewards had made good had made more money saved money they were able to write a $30,000 check to pay for this entire person's adoption just like write a check and I remember that this was probably gosh fourteen years ago like I will never forget what emotion that invoked inside of me to be able to live in such a way where I you know my past was like. I can afford to give you $15 for your mission trip or whatever you know to be able to write a $30,000 check for somebody's adult like to me that that that speaks to me and that's maybe why adoption is so important to me I think it's ridiculous I think it is the dumbest thing ever that people have to pay 30 plus 40 Plus thousand dollars to adopt, that makes me righteous angry because so many good people who have a heart to adopt don't even pursue that because they think I can't afford it I'll never be able to raise $40000 we'll never be able to come up with $40000. I want to help make that money and I want you to help make that money too like I want whatever the Lord has burdened on your heart make more, make more so that you can be the answer to that prayer. So what do you long for what's a burden. What's the way that you can shift these thoughts about money that are selfish to actually be. Truly prosperous. Okay, the 6 lies again are ah number one I have enough number 2 it's not important number three I don't need it number 4 All I'll mismanage it number five I don't deserve it again. All of those are I and number 6 is more nobler to be poor. Read you some scriptures from this printout that you guys can get at jessicahefley.com/money this is 3 pages of straight up scripture horrible there you go so important to renew our mind to the truth. The truth is Jesus and the truth will set you free. Not what Jessica says. Not what anybody else says but from your own study from your own being in the word for your your own renewing your mind to the truth here. Go proverbs. There's just a couple of them proverbs 1022 the blessing of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no sorrow to it that was one I had to renew my mind with because it kept feeling guilty or shameful or have more money than them or oh I'm able to afford this and they are I kept being in this comparison ish. Okay, no the blessing of the Lord brings wealth and he adds no sorrow to it. You are doing nothing wrong for making money you are doing nothing wrong for making a lot what is even a lot of money again that's the the judgment scale again. Just stop judging. What is a what is a lot but have like we did in episode number 2 we did. We did a money exercise off the bat if you have not listened to that. Go back I think it's episode 86 it's part 2 in this money series where I have you do a income exercise to help you crush through. All your thoughts and dream bigger have the bigger possibility of a certain amount of income because I do believe it's important to have goals to have aspirations to have things that you are working towards because that will push you further that will get you out of your comfort zone more. That will help you focus more on others than this selfish place that keeps us um, stagnant and stuck okay proverbs 3 8 honor the Lord honor the Lord with your wealth with your first fruits of all your crops then your barns will be filled to overflowing and your vats will brim over with new wine honor god with your wealth. That's what prosperity with purpose is for honoring him with your wealth. What's mother ones um proverbs 13:22 A good person leaves an inheritance to their children's, children. Hear me it is time for us to raise up and have a completely different money story, a completely different money result than our parents and our grandparents did this first are ah a good person leaves an inheritance to our children's children that is about finances but that also is about an emotional and spiritual intelligence that it's also about the things that you break off curses that you break off that affects generations and generations. But when it says the inheritance for your children's children that is not just thinking about your kids in their future that is you financially thinking about your grandchildren's financial future. What sort of legacy. Do you want to give them. How do you want to set them up not to be striving or just getting vibe but to truly prosper and truly understand the entrepreneur your spirit and truly understand stewarding or multiplying so they can in turn do the same thing for their grandchildren proverbs. Third. 11 proverbs 11:23 A generous person will prosper whoever refreshes others will be refreshed that verse will always be really special to us. Cedar Rock ministries is 1 of our favorite ministries. We so used to be on the board for that. It's a really ,really, really intentional marriage retreats. They do one couple and you get to spend so many intentional hours with Nick and Renee Fouts, and it's it's unlike anything I've ever experienced. You've been to marriage retreats before this is not like that this is very so hard to explain actually I have an episode about it So Keri put that in the show notes about you can go listen to what it's all about, but it helps you in your connection with yourself and God. Your connection but to yourself and your connection with your spouse in some of the most intentional intimate ways I've ever experienced. Anyways. so one of our favorite things to do is send people we know need that. pastor couples to that to those retreats. We know we are so grateful for pastors we are so grateful for their service. We honestly know that they probably don't make much. For what they actually do and the impact they have on the kingdom. So we love to bless them a lot of our but lot of our best friends are in full-time ministry its just a heart that we have me and Rob used to be in ministry used to be youth ministers. We are called to ministry in the marketplace so we are not called to a full time position at the at at church but we love to pastor our pastors. We love to pour into them. We love to be a sounding board for them. We love to be a safe friend for them. That's not in all the meetings and all the not not in it someone that they can lean on that's a little bit removed from the day to day. Anyways, we've seen lots and lots of couples. It's one of our most favorite things to do to this but 1 pastors in particular and they have 6 children that 6 children and and I don't know I just knew that if you got 6 children and three of them were triplets that it probably was a little bit tired, so we just felt really led to send them and after the retreat they sent us a note and they put this verse in there I was not expecting a thank you note that is it was just this sweet, sweet, sweet gesture. And they put this Verse Proverbs 11:23 They were so grateful and and Proverbs 11:23 says A generous person will prosper. Whoever refreshes others will be refreshed. and I've kind of taken that on as I want to be generous I know that when we refresh. Others we in turn are refreshed and that is what I want for every single one of you listeners to stop thinking and viewing these money thought to stop coming in agreement with all of these thoughts that are selfish around money that are only thinking about you only focusing on you. And help you have a bigger view of real prosperity is not defined by how is defined by how much you give away not by how much you keep for yourself. Prosperity is about blessing not possessing so I just pray a blessing over you this week as the Holy Spirit works on your heart. As he downloads things that he is gonna he is calling you to be the answer for that prayer as he blesses your business as you are consistent as you are focusing on serving as you are focusing on who God has called you who God calls who God says you are and who you are called to serve. Pray a blessing that you take that you tear off the spirit of comparison or the spirit of apathy or and the spirit of perfection or obsession with self and all these selfish thoughts and take on his view of you his view of money his view of prosperity and I disbellive but all my heart was really excited to kind of end this series with this, because it is just so important. It so important for us to renew our minds. It is so important for us to have a bigger picture. It is so important for us to have that that humongous goal that we have thought about we've allowed our brain to The mustard seed of possibility that can be possible for you in your future and that seed as you continue to renew your mind with these verses as you continue to be aware of your thoughts as you continue to continue to redefine prosperity that seed is growing which in turn with that will come supernatural ideas on how to work your business supernatural connections. To bring blessing to your business. Supernatural ideas like that all comes because you become the answer to the prayer the income through you meets the needs of others prosperity is about blessing not possessing so y'all go make a ton of it Amen, Amen. See you next week!