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Hello and welcome back. So, summer is closing in. My kids go back to school in one week. By the time this comes out, I think they'll be back in school. So I am closing up the summer, so getting ready for routine. But today, just finished up a leading ladies workshop inside of my leading ladies coaching program, which you need. You need because of the high-level coaching that will help you have breakthroughs, the personal accountability, and the spiritual direction to help take your life and business to the next level, create more peace, make more money, multiply your time, and steward your business God's way inside of leading ladies. Go check that out. But, we just had a workshop and I am just reminded over and over and over again of how impactful and influential. So this week we are talking about: are you feeling stuck? Because again, I come to you guys and I talk about themes that I am sensing and feeling in my own life because I feel like God wants to give people a breakthrough. Anyways, this month's workshop was the real reason you're not losing weight. Fascinating that I'm talking about that in a business coaching program, but everything is linked and the next month is the real reason you're avoiding that.
Anyways, in today's podcast episode, we're really going to talk about feeling stuck. Are you feeling stuck? any area of your life. This may be your business. This may be your marriage. This may be your home, your job. This may be relational. This may be just like life in general. You just feel stuck. And I'm going to hear to snap you out of something because for some reason we get into this, we think like, oh, I'm stuck. And we just sit there and like waiting for like unstuckness to knock on the front door. Like the package to arrive, we're finally going to be unstuck. Someone is going to, you know, do something or something's going to happen to us. And then we'll get unstuck. But I am here today to talk to you about taking radical ownership of your life and making powerful decisions. Those are the things that will get you unstuck. You just waiting for something to happen in your life or waiting for your upline or your boss or your husband to do something that helps you not feel stuck anymore or waiting for your mom or your friend or your child to change so then you won't still feel so stuck in that relationship. Snapping you out of it. Snapping you out of it because you are an advocate for your life and it is time for you to take radical ownership because nothing in your life changes unless something in your life changes. In the dynamic changes, the dynamic changes.
You're the one, you're the only person that can change. You're the only person that you can have control over. And you're the only person that by you taking radical ownership and making powerful decisions is going to allow your life to get unstuck. So if you are feeling unstuck, I view this as a message from the Lord or a message, an invitation, for you to change. What if you started viewing any area of your life where you are feeling stuck, where you're feeling stagnant, instead of being like woe is me, there's nothing I can do because I'm stuck, right? When you're stuck, there's nothing you can do. No, you keep thinking that when there's nothing you can do when you are stuck, you will continue to stay stuck. When you feel or notice that you are feeling or noticing that you are stuck. That is an invitation for something in you to change. So let's start with radical ownership because I'm teaching, Leading Ladies, I am teaching you guys who want to create more peace and make more money how to have radical ownership of your life, and how to be an advocate for your life.
Y'all, I gotta tell you this story, oh my goodness. When I was thinking about what I was gonna talk about on this podcast today, two different stories came up of how I could have easily not been an advocate for my life. I could have easily just done what somebody else told me to do or suggested I should do. Anyways, y'all, I'm not even kidding. A couple of years ago, it was after a vacation with me and Rob, wink, wink. I knew that I had a... UTI, urinary tract infection. I had one other time in my life, I was going to the bathroom…we’re talking about real stuff. I was going to the bathroom all the time and was feeling some pain. I was like, I have a urinary tract infection. And so I set up an appointment with a new OBGYN and they recommended from a friend and I set up my appointment with them and I go in and I tell them and he gives me this exam and he looks at some things. Y'all I've had some babies, I've had some big babies. Okay, let me preface it with that. And he looks at some things and he goes, Mind you, I am here for a UTI. I'm here to get my yearly checkup because I hadn't gone in a while, but to get some medicine for my UTI. He checks me and then he pulls his head out from under the cover. He's like, okay, here's a pamphlet. You can schedule your hysterectomy on your way out with the secretary. I was like, excuse me? He was like, yeah, you can schedule that. I was like, I came for a UTI. I mean, I know I have a little bit of prolapse or whatever, but he's like, there's no other option. Can I do some physical therapy? And he was just like so short with me, basically telling me nothing else would work. This is what I need to get done. Go ahead and get it over with. I left that office. Honestly, livid because I know enough about my own personal experience and I knew that I could get a second opinion. I knew that I should get a second opinion. I knew that I was able to get it, and I knew that a wise thing to do in this situation was to get a second opinion, but I was livid because I know that there are hundreds and thousands of other people who don't think they can get a second opinion. They think, well, this is what the doctor told me to do. He's the medical professional. He said to do this, so this must be my only option. This must be what I must do. And I knew that was not true. I knew that I did not. This time I was probably around 35 years old. I did not need a hysterectomy. I did not need a major organ of my body cut out. Like, it was just like no big thing. Like this is a major surgery, okay? No, thank you! And I still to this day have not had a hysterectomy.
So all that to say, I learned from that day the importance of taking radical ownership of your life. Not just letting somebody else tell you what to do or decide for you what to do, that there are options. There are other things I can look into, there is PT, there are things that I can prolong this like, okay, another example of how you've got to take radical ownership of your own life because other people aren't gonna do it. Are you ready for this other example? Newsflash, nobody else cares more about you and your life than you do. This is why it's important to wake you up to this. You are going to be the catalyst for change. Okay, so, I've been having for the last couple of months, um, some elbow pain, y'all. It's been incredibly frustrating. I've really looked into lots of root causes of this because I love to lift weights and I haven't been able to weight train in months. It's been incredibly frustrating. So the month of June, as you know, I was at camp and our Plexus convention and, um, my life coaching, graduation, all these things. I was out of town a lot and so I did not weight train for almost the entire month of June. In my mind, I'm thinking, oh, you know, well, I'm resting my elbow. It still kind of hurts. Surely, I'm going out of town. That should be enough rest for my elbow to heal. It didn't heal. Finally, I was like, forget it. One day I did an arm workout and then I painted for a friend and then the next day it was excruciating pain, more than it had ever been before. I was like, oh no, like my elbow, something is wrong here. And so, as you could from my previously stated story, I just told you about my OBGYN, I don't love to go to the doctor as my first resort. I actually do love doctors and there is a time and a place and I am thankful for them in certain scenarios, but I do not think that it is the only option. But The elbow had been hurting for a while, so I went into a walking clinic and I was like, okay, let's check on this elbow. I told them what was going on and they were like, well, maybe you have tendonitis or maybe you have arthritis. So here's a couple of things that you can try and if it doesn't get better, then you can come in and get an x-ray. And I said with my mouth, what would an x-ray do? And they're like, well, we can see if you have arthritis from an x-ray. And I'm already like, oh my goodness. Okay, whatever. So anyway, I tried to tough it out for another week and I'm like, it still hurts. So I go in and get an x-ray. So I go in, they're like, yeah, you can come in anytime, just get an x-ray in and out. I go in and I get the x-ray. They call me days later. Okay, they call me and they're like, yeah, it's already like phone tag. They won't just tell you your results over the voicemail for some reason. I don't know why they won't just tell me in the voicemail. But they call me, I finally get to talk to somebody. And they're like, yes, Mrs. Hefley, your elbow is not broken. And I was like, I know my elbow is not broken. I did not get an x-ray for you to see if it was broken or not. They told me to come and get an x-ray to see if there was arthritis in my elbow and if that is causing the pain. I was just so frustrated. And of course, it wasn't the actual doctor I was talking to. It was like the receptionist. They're like, oh, okay. Well, let me go and talk to the doctor and let them get it. back hold of you. Anyways, it was this long, long frustrating phone tag because it felt like again, I had to be an advocate for my life and my health. They weren't the ones that were really concerned about my elbow or actually looking for what they were supposed to be looking for. Somehow it got misshaped. They thought that they were looking at an X-ray of it. if the elbow was broken or not. Y'all, my elbow is not broken. You just told me to come in for it. Anyways, a little bit frustrating. All that to say, again, if I just was to just say, well, this is what the doctor said. This is what they told me to do. If I just would have just taken that result at face value, I wouldn't have been taking radical ownership of my life. I would still be stuck and it wouldn't have been getting better because they weren't looking at the best interest of me holistically. Okay, they were just looking at one piece that they thought that they could fix or they thought that they could do and it ended up not working out well. So anyways, back to this feeling of you feeling stuck. I really want you to pause and ask yourself, if in light of your feeling stuck, this is an invitation for you to change, what about you needs to change in order for you to get unstuck, in order for that situation to get unstuck. It's something about you because, again, you are the absolute only person that you can control. A victim mentality is to continue to stay in stuckness and to blame other people and other things for why you are stuck when you have the power to make powerful decisions, which leads me to my second point of powerful decisions.
You are capable of making powerful decisions to get a different result in your life. For some of you, it is time for you to hire that coach. It is time for you to join Leading Ladies to take radical ownership of your thoughts in your future and make powerful decisions to get unstuck. One of my favorite mottos is because I used to very much get stuck in indecisiveness. Like it was a... side effect of perfectionism, not wanting to make a mistake, wanting to make sure it was perfect, not wanting to do anything wrong, blah, blah. But I have an anchor thought now that I cling to in order to help my life move forward because if it's not moving forward, it's stuck, right? So here's my thought: I am capable of making a decision so life can move forward. So if you ever find yourself in a stuckness, or trying to decide between two things. “I don't know what to do. I don't know”. Yeah, it's keeping you stuck. You are a powerful person who is able to make powerful decisions and you are capable of making a decision so life can move forward. It is time for life to move forward, friends, co-workers, and business owners. Summer is coming to a close. The chaos of summer, the fullness of summer, the inconsistency of schedules of summer, the vacation, the memories, the kids, it's all there. It's all a part of life. It's lovely. It's about to be Fall. The kids are going back to school, routine is coming back in, and it is time for you to take radical ownership of your life and make powerful decisions because you are capable of making a decision so your life can move forward. So if you are feeling stuck, or the next time that you find yourself feeling stuck, view it instead of I am stuck, view this as an invitation to change. Where is God leading you to change? Where is God leading you to make a decision? Because this is an invitation or another term to put it, is like God is begging you or something is begging you to change. The stuckness is not a stuckness to stay in. It is an invitation for you to change. And so, in what area are you going to change today? Decide. Is joining Leading Ladies? Is that something else in another area of your life that you need to make a powerful decision in so your life can move forward? I'm honored to share this with you to help your life move forward. This has helped me tremendously to come back to my identity that I take radical ownership of my life and I am capable of making powerful decisions and so are you! See you next week.