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Hello welcome back to the Prosperity With Purpose Podcast. I am Jessica Hefley, and today we're serving up some humble pie because who doesn't want that instead of pride is before the fall? I’d rather eat humble pie instead of fall and so I want humility to in today's episode. It is one of the core when I started my coaching program a couple years ago it used to be called Leading Ladies now it's called Prosperity With Purpose. It can evolve. It can change. You can do whatever you want, you're the business owner! I just felt like this was clearer and more fitting to the purpose and long term mission of what we are about. I did core values, and humility was one of the core values that I still want to live into. I still want to highlight. I still think is important and but kind of the preface humility was she is tender talking in terms of my clients talking in terms of the of the women that I serve. And my ideal client right? She is tender. Heart humility is she is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and is willing to learn a new thing so really king in there on. Open towards repentance open towards his loving kindness that leads to change and also open to learning a new thing so I'm going to cover 5 quick areas of why humility is so important in your business and in your life and I want this to be on the forefront of my mind on the forefront of my actions. And so I want to help and spread that message to you and impart that to you because it is so important. It is such a differentiating factor in how we lead because we are Christ's followers and humility is an important part of that and how and we demonstrate that and our work and our relationships how we model that. And so here's the 5. Number one, around humility because I long to be I want to be humble. It's not our natural tendency to be humble. But I know that to be more Christ-like I want to be more humble, so that is what feeds my desire to do this. Ok, so but number 1 humility will require you to be a beginner. Are you willing to learn a new thing? You're a rookie at leading your business in 2024 You're a rookie. You have never done this before. Are you willing in this day and age in this day of social media and this day of technology and this day of culture. You've never done it before you may have done a lot of things for 1,2,3,4,5,10 years but in the past, but you've never done it in this present day and age so you have to embrace. With humility being a beginner trying new things different ways to work our business different ways to think different ways to act and be and be willing if what we have been doing in the past that used to work is it anymore. Be willing to be a beginner!
Number 2- be open to the possibility that you are wrong. A big piece of humility is being open to the possibility that you could be wrong, not being so right? That's what pride the opposite of humility is pride and pride is like, I am right. I am doing this, right?I'm up here. You can't tell me what to do like it's this haughtiness that there's a difference between confidence and and haughtiness. Confidence is a good thing. Haughtiness is like this, I don't know this posture, this energy, this presence. I'm better than you I can't be wrong. But I am positive that there's no other way to look at this no other options and and but also a part of humility is so many people that's one side of it. As part is being open to the possibility of being wrong. But also when you are going back to number 1 being a beginner trying new things put yourself out there. You will make mistakes. It will not be perfect and so a part of the human experience is being willing to make a mistake. Being willing to do it wrong. Being willing the reason we are not perfect is why we we need a Savior. Okay because we can't do it perfect, we're not going to never hurt anybody's feelings or never do anything wrong that doesn't mean that we shouldn't do anything! Embrace that you're human. Embrace that you will make mistakes. Embrace that you have a Savior who is perfect, so you do not have to be. But be open to the possibility of being wrong or doing something wrong. Okay, Number 3 - Be the first to apologize. In taking a space of humility and eating that good old humble pie and just being a wholehearted roundabout person is just wise to be the first to apologize. Don't sit there and wait to be justified, wait for somebody to take your side, wait for somebody to understand you, wait for “but you don't understand what they did..” right to be the first to apologize, be the first to forgive. That will give you way more power over the situation over the other person. All those things be the first we can consider being the first to apologize. Number 4- How can you consider another a big part of humility, “Humility isn't thinking less of yourself, it's thinking of yourself less.” which goes to my point. How can you consider another? So humility isn't thinking of yourself like thinking less of yourself. It isn't putting yourself down, thinking that you're less than and thinking that you're not good up. That's not humility. It's simply just thinking of yourself less. And thinking of other people more. It's not never considering yourself. It's just being..it's just a posture of thinking of other people. The posture of humility, pride is like “No this is what I want!” “This is what I need.” “This is the way it should go!” “This is the only way it should be.” and humility is like “Okay oh how can we consider this other part? This person's opinion? This person's point of view? This person's perspective? It's considering them. It's not thinking of yourself less. It's just thinking of yourself a little bit less in quantity of time so you can say think about others more. Number 5- You may not know at all a way to experience humility - a way to live out humility is having the posture and the thought that you may not know it all. You may not have all of the information. This has been incredibly helpful for me. From someone who used to be incredibly judgmental and think that her way was the best way. It was the only way to do it. I thought of it. It has to be the best. Why is anybody else thinking about this, you have to understand that people make decisions in their life and business without you knowing all of the information, so you can ask curious questions to try to understand. But I often now take the posture when someone does something that I don't think is a good idea or that's something I wouldn't want to do, I don't go about and saying that's the stupidest idea ever, I can't believe I did that can you believe I did that?" I now take the posture of “Interesting, that's interesting.” and then if I want to learn, just even pausing and saying that's interesting because it allows the space of I may not know all the information there. There probably is something else to the story that I am not keen to. I did not know as to why they did that as to why they made that decision and I'm open to the possibility. There could be more to the story. There could be more information and if it is that important then I should ask curious questions never make assumptions another really big piece of humility is. I heard this in a bill Johnson Sermon a long time ago and it really struck out with me is “We cannot Judge. people's assumptions.” So it's so easy for us to be like, “Well they did this because a dot da da da da or I know that they're dealing with it and that's why they did that we cannot judge someone. We do not know why somebody did that something that they did. We do not know why somebody said something to us even if it was hurtful or painful or whatever, or why they made the choices that they make we cannot make it. It is not wise to make assumptions of others and that is something between them and the Lord and again, that's where you can ask questions to learn more conversations but you may not know it all. So quickly I just wanted I just feel like how humility is important, and I wanted to put on the forefront of my mind. I've really tried to there’s multiple opportunities for me to speak up for myself or say something mean about somebody or defend myself or try to over-explain. Over-explaining yourself as a trauma response, by the way, like you feel like you have you're not saying enough because you're so terrified that you will be misunderstood. You will be misjudged. You'll be mis-perceived and the Lord has just really invited me this week and some on some occasions where I have been misunderstood or misperceived by others to really take it before the Lord like let him fight my battles let him be my defender. Let the fruit of my life speak for itself and may I encourage you in that as well when you may often feel like you want to get defensive or prove your point or overexplain your area, so other people will believe you or trust you or be on your side or whatever, like humility is like I just keep doing what the Lord has called you to do. And the fruit of your life will speak for itself. That's a stance, that's a place that's a posture that's and and it's a place of like trust it's a place of intimacy with the Lord. It's a place of allowing him to be your defender. It's a place of and working out your ish with him instead of talking to everybody gossiping or talking to everybody else about it or trying to get other people on your side. It's has been a true area of growth for me for sure and don't we all want more areas of growth? I mean we don't always want them right, but we want what the areas of growth will produce in us. They produce character. They produce endurance. They produce fruit, and the fruit of your life will speak for itself. So I'm proud of you guys, proud of you guys who are really, really wanting to grow in the area of humility in all areas of your life and business. And who knows maybe I'll do who knows who maybe I'll do an episode of all of my values but let me tell you them real quick while they're on the forefront of my mind kind of the core values of my business behind the scenes are Growth, Awareness, Stewardship, Transformation, Humility, Honor and Wholeness. So let me go ahead and read these explanations. I think it's so important and for what you do like your core but we have a core values as a family, and I also have a core values of my business because those are what I want to operate out of what I want to teach about what I want to embody. What do I want to be an example of and what I believe at leading lady. What I believe somebody who prospers with purpose. Entails so growth. So if these resonate with you I would love to explore that more I would love to partner with you inside of Prosperity With Purpose Mentorship because these are the core values that I believe in a woman that is a business owner that will change the world that embeds true prosperity with purpose growth. She is called to multiply her impact personally and professionally and leaves a legacy that impacts eternity. Number 2 Awareness- she is committed to the most important work of taking her thoughts captive and is self-aware curious and compassionate about those thoughts toward herself and others. Stewardship- she identifies her purpose and takes ownership and accountability of her partnership with the Holy Spirit and authority in Christ in her calling transformation. She has hope her future will be different from her past and she believes in the possibilities of change for the better. A renewed mind equals a transformed life. Humility - she is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and she is willing to learn a new thing. Honor- she honors her time boundaries and commitments to herself and others. Through nourishing routines that feed her soul from a place of rest and wholeness she prospers as she casts off old entanglements and runs freely in abundance spiritually emotionally physically and financially as she empowers others to do the same. Wholeness is a natural outpouring of who she is and how she leads and as I reread the humility one , I just wanted to touch on 1 more thing real quick because it is key. We cannot rush over the part of repentance. I'm going to read the definition. Well my core value of humility again. She is tenderhearted in her childlike faith towards God's loving kindness that leads to repentance and is willing to learn a new thing his loving kindness leads to repentance part of humility is repenting. When you notice something that you have done notice something that you have thought notice the way that you have lived is repenting that before the Lord and confessing that to anybody else that that that that has affected but there is ah a key to freedom and repentance so may. We don't live our life in denial. We don't live our life not taking ownership of our choices. We live a life of repentance because we know that when we repent we can turn from another way. It is it is a representation of humility. We're turning away from that old way going a new way which is also why taking your thoughts captive and thinking. Specific thoughts on purpose is so important because that will lead you to a life of of repentance that will lead you to a life of humility and not pride and like we said I'd rather have humble pie than pride before the fall! Amen. Amen. So these things are important. in your business and in your life and I'm so proud of you for living them out. See you next time.